Why don’t we say all the things we want to say? Sometimes it is in deference to someone’s feelings. Often we hold back because we are afraid of how we will look to others.  But most often, I think I hold back on things I never say because it is an invitation to see our inside, which is a person’s most safe place. Once you let someone into that space, what else might they see? So we remain silent, guarded, and closed off. But that is no way to live life.

The Beginning

When we are young children, we experiment, showing parts of ourselves to the world. What we think is funny. What we think is brilliant. Mistakes are made. Sometimes, we are chastised, laughed at, and made to feel wrong about who we are, which hurts. So our little growing egos start to express themselves very carefully. We begin to hide parts of ourselves from the world because we are afraid of how they will be received.  The list of things we hide inside of ourselves only grows.

Over time these lists of things we can say and do and those we can’t form our personality and provide the window we allow the world to see us through.  But it is only a tiny, prefabricated version of who we are.  Every person in the world has this window created due to the things they can’t say to the world.

Mountains Out of Mole Hills

This is one of my favorite sayings because all people seem to create the greatest tragedies out of the tiniest of mishaps. A person’s imagination is massive when it comes to potential difficulties, but we are often marked by overreaction pushed by fear. The real problems we face are pretty small.  The things we repress and hide from the world about our thoughts and how we feel do not disappear like a rabbit from a magician’s hat. No, their energy stays with you blocking your health and ability to move forward.

To free these blockages, a person needs to express themselves freely, at this to themselves. Let the actions, thoughts, and happenings of your life be expressed freely. This freedom will allow current problems to be viewed through a scope that is not clouded by past events.  Each new event will be judged on its merit, regardless of the past.  These energies will move through you and allow more room inside for new and creative creations to come from you.

It is Less Work to Just BE

Look at the effort it takes a person to constantly edit themselves and decide what is inappropriate to say and do.  It is unhealthy for the mind and spirit, but it is also just a much more difficult life.  It isn’t easy to have an opinion today because it seems there is always some tiny person in the world who will disagree, but don’t let a small-minded person limit your great message.  State your truth clearly and loudly for the world to hear, and never apologize for it.

It is your right and gift as an individual to have thoughts, ideas, a sense of humor,  or a philosophy of honor.  Expressing this is the most honorable form of creation.  Be that creation of a product, thought, or philosophy.  Stop hiding your uniqueness behind fear.  It is fear that stops anyone from expressing themselves in the first place. It is better to be yourself than to live life behind a cloud.  Express the things you never spoke of and let the repressed thoughts and feelings go.

My experience is that if you don’t consciously release these things, they will find a way to free themselves, which may not be a way you would like or enjoy. Making the whole “stealth behavior” in the beginning a terrible choice.  Emotions like sadness or anger flash out of nowhere, and you wonder what that is all about.  Be conscious of your words and feelings and let them come out and express yourself.  Be healthy and express yourself and say the things you never say.