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See Detachment

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Detachment is a word most don’t think of as leading to success, but we can practice a few things that will allow our goals, hopes, and dreams to turn into a reality for us. 

Detachment is the state of being objective or aloof, and it is challenging to maintain because we develop specific ideas about how we think things should go. We build a narrow-minded attachment to that outcome. Even when things work out, we can still feel the pangs of disappointment when things break our attachments if they are better than we hoped. Building detached feelings when we create goals that we care about allows all possibilities to become available to us. Letting go of past conditioning and allowing for things to develop in our lives to work best for all involved takes patience, understanding, and wisdom. Try to start looking at things in a detached, unemotional way. What does detachment look like?

Limits of Past Experience

Setting an intention for what you desire is the action that gets the process of creation in motion. The tricky part is not to form a specific attachment to how that thing comes into your life and a part of your reality.

These ideas create limitations on our experience and expectations of what we believe to be possible, and they eliminate all possibilities outside of our current knowledge base. Our attachment to the past is an attachment to our egoic mind, continually operating from a base of fear. Detachment shows faith in the process and allows influences you have never experienced before to enter your life.

Our past experiences are what they are. From the time we were born, we have been trying to piece together the actions we can take to bring desired, positive results. Fitting in, finding acceptance, and receiving kindness for just who we are. Bad habits and untruths can become a part of our belief system, limiting us. One negative experience can create a limiting belief that we may not question the rest of our lives. If you let the past dictate how you accept things in the present, new ideas and unexpected outcomes will have a hard time finding you. Be detached and allow all possibilities to come to you.

Detachment not Attachment

When you have thought of creating an attachment to a particular outcome, you limit the results you can experience. Growth is difficult. Create your intention, picture the result you desire, and then take the difficult step to let it go. By letting go of expectations, you show confidence in the true self inside of you. Learning to view goals, intentions, and desires with detached interest allows them to take the turns they need to come to you. Just like a flower needs no other help than you to plant it in the ground in a hospitable location, so do our intentions grow. Let them do their work.

Too often, we build an attachment to the outcome, there may be a more efficient way to accomplish what you want, but you feel that if you don’t personally control every step, something might go wrong. That is an attachment, making things more challenging to accomplish and taking longer than necessary. Detachment from the details of how a situation will arrive allows efficiency in the process, growth, power, and possibility.

Action Still Needed

Nothing in the world will happen without effort. You can act appropriately and still carry a conscious detachment to the process. Taking action and dictating the results are two different things. You can write a letter and send it and let it work its power, whatever that may be. You don’t have to deliver it to the Post Office. Your action sent it on its way, and the system takes care of the rest. Faith makes practicing detachment a skill that needs to grow in a successful person. Like all things with practice, it will become easier.

The most important thing is setting the intention that you genuinely want. Then take action to achieve the goal, which is wholehearted and complete. This type of energy will make finding the results you seek is much easier. It is a delicate balance to learn when to take action and let things play out as they should. But the only way to become a master of detachment is to take time and consciously practice being detached from specific outcomes and methods for bringing those things into your life.

Awareness of Detachment

To become detached means a person has to develop trust in the laws of life. Is there a greater force in life than us? Of course, the answer to that is up to each person. The fact is that the process exists and learning to desire and still step back and trust is challenging. Becoming aware of being detached from your intentions will allow you to grow as a person and in faith. It will give you one more weapon to bring what you desire into the world. Rather than trying to control everybody and everything (impossible), you can learn to take care of your part and let the rest fall as it must.

1. Choose what you want.

2. create it as a thought in your mind.

3. Imagine what that thing will feel like and look like in your life. 

4. Then release it. Let it happen. 

This option is always available to you in creating anything. There is a wise presence in understanding our limits and weakness, and all things are then open to you. The certainty of outcomes is a limiting box, limiting the creativity of the Universe to help you.

What would your life look like if you practiced detachment to pursue your goals?

“Detachment doesn’t mean I’m trying less hard. It just means that fears and emotions that used to torment and paralyze me longer have the same power over me.” Kelly Cultrone

“He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment.” Meister Eckhart

 “Detachment is not that you should own nothing. But that nothing should own you.” Ali ibn abi Talib

“The root of suffering is attachment.” Buddha

“Only in the stillness of detachment can the soul yield up her secrets.” Elsa Barker

“Detachment is an art of enjoying something while always being open to the possibility of losing it someday.” John B. Bejo

 

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Detach

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We all have desires and things we want in our lives. But if you focus too much on that one thing, life can slip away from you. It is always healthy to maintain some detachment to the idea you desire.  The biggest problem with having something good is that it comes with a similar fear of losing that thing. The protection from this fear is a measure of detachment or the state of being objective. This objectivity is a difficult skill because when you have a desire, it is difficult to maintain any objectivity and the corresponding emotions, leading to a negative, fear-driven mindset.  Detachment allows you to keep positive energy as you achieve your goals.

Law of Detachment- Letting go of your desire or releasing. 

Detachment from Your Expectations

In life, there are events we look forward to experiencing.  Any milestone or accomplishment brings anticipation, and naturally, expectations will arise in your mind.  This is the place where detachment needs to come into play. When you start to place expectations on the result of something, it is in danger of not being successful.  Once hope comes to you, the mind creates negative worry scenarios about how it might not happen the way you wish. This negative energy will make success and enjoyment difficult.

One of the greatest lessons of playing organized sports is learning to let the result be and take joy and care in doing what you need to do to reach your accomplishments.  This pleasure is accomplished by detaching yourself from the outcome and attaching yourself to doing what you are responsible for in getting there. The results will be what they are, and they will provide something exceptional.  A goal will be achieved, or there will be an opportunity to reassess and try again.  If you don’t practice detachment, one setback can destroy your enthusiasm and confidence.  The results do not define your value, and your actions on the way determine your worth.

Detachment and Charged Thoughts

Think for a moment about something you want to happen in your life.  It could be a new job, a relationship, or anything else.  You will have an initial charge of positivity followed by a litany of worry and fear.  This parade of negative thoughts can derail your efforts before they even get off the ground. It is beneficial for you to maintain a positive perspective, even if others in your life don’t—positive thoughts inside lead to positive results on the outside.

It is up to you to detach from the natural thought to dream up the worst-case scenario of whatever you are involved in in your life.  This detachment is a way of bracing yourself for all outcomes, and anything result will most likely not be a disappointment.  But disappointment can only come from expectations unfulfilled. Don’t create negative images in your mind; negative thoughts inside lead to negative results. Think differently than you have and maintain your individuality of view from those around you.

Letting Go and Letting things Happen

Letting things go is very hard for people to do. It is human nature to attempt to control things from the beginning to the end. But life will teach you that it just isn’t possible or healthy to do.  When you give up your need to control events or other people, you will only be responsible for yourself and what you do.  Too often, we are spending so much effort to attempt to control events in our lives and other people in our lives that we lose focus on the fact, all we manage is ourselves.

Allow things to happen as they should.  We all want great things to happen in our lives, relationships, money, or whatever we desire. But you can’t force things to happen.  All items come with steps of experience that bring them into reality. Building a business or a relationship all come with growing events along the way.  Enjoy these events, learn from them, and allow them to grow into what they bring to your life in growth and understanding.  Many a bad relationship was created by forcing it to perform as expected.  Let go and let things develop as they should.

Detach and Let Things Flow

Control is and always will be an illusion to humankind.  We have little control over the grand scheme of life, and we can only control how we react to events and people. That is it.  We build attachments to things in our minds and find it hard not to build up imaginary scenarios of what it will feel like and how life will change as we accomplish something.  It is better to know what you want and be willing to flow in whatever direction works best. Often the best route to our goals moves in a guide we would never have envisioned.  Take that route.

The other form of control that people often rely on is the control of other people. Usually, loved ones that we want to protect from hard times or difficulties.  However, this is an illusion too. All people have free will to choose what they want. Any control that you experience with another comes only from their consent. If you think you are in charge, you will be in for an awakening.  Detach from that and allow people to follow their path, learn their lessons, and become the best they can be.

In the end, failure to practice detachment from your ego and its limited beliefs grows out of a fear of change and how it might adversely affect you.  Let the fear go and allow for things to happen as they will. This isn’t easy to do, but letting go of your conditioning from the past will enable you to accept unlimited answers and experiences.

“Detachment is not that you should own nothing. But that nothing should own you.” -Ali ibn abi Talib

“He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment.” -Meister Eckhart

“The root of suffering is attachment.“- Buddha

“Detachment doesn’t mean I’m trying less hard. It just means that fears and emotions that used to torment and paralyze me longer have the same power over me.” -Kelly Cutrone

 

Laws

Universal Laws of Life

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I wanted to share some thoughts with you which will hopefully help raise your consciousness. I read this in a book called Universal Laws by Jennifer O’Neill several years ago and it made me look at the world in an interesting way.  If nature is governed by a set of laws, perhaps our reality is also controlled by hard fast laws. Being aware of these laws may just allow you to get the most out of your daily experience. Some you may agree with and some you may not and that is great.  It should be an experience creating new thoughts in your head about your behavior and understanding the world a little more in a different way.  These are the 18 Universal Laws of Life and they can help you understand your life a little bit more.

My goal is to discuss each one of these laws one by one for the next 18 days.  Hopefully, it will create thought and new ways to look at life.

  1. The Law of Oneness- Everything is connected. We are all one.
  2. The Law of Vibration- Everything in the Universe vibrates or offers a vibration.
  3. The Law of Attraction- You attract into your life what you are offering vibrationally.
  4. The Law of Allowing– The state of allowing is the purest state of getting what you want. Allowing things to move without resistance and to evolve and grow naturally.
  5. The Law of Resistance– Anything offering resistance will manifest itself into energy blockages or stuck energy.
  6. The Law of Detachment– The law of releasing or letting go of your desires.
  7. The Law of Abundance- There is more than enough in the Universe, nothing is limited.
  8. The Law of Intention- Directing energy as an intention is the first step to creativity and desire which results in creating the things you want.
  9. The Law of Action– Action must be taken in order to result in manifestation.
  10. The Law of Cause and Effect– Every action has an equal reaction or consequence.
  11. The Law of Pure Potential- Everything and everyone has infinite possibilities.
  12. The Law of Rhythm- There is an ebb and flow of life. All things have a rhythm, a cycle or the ebb and flow.
  13. The Law of Polarity- All things have an opposite available. Yin and Yang,  these complementary opposites are part of the greater whole.
  14. Law of Relativity- Everything and everyone will face challenges or tests that will allow them to find their strength within.
  15. Law of Dharma- A purpose, all things have been created for a purpose.
  16. The Law of Giving and Gratitude- The Universe dictates, you must give in order to receive.
  17. The Law of Correspondence- Simply put, reality cannot contradict itself.
  18. The law of Love- Love is universal, energy in its purest and most powerful state.

I will be spending the next 18 days exploring each of these laws and sharing my thoughts on how they affect our lives. It should be a fun experience.

“The Universal Law is impartial. It will give you anything you believe. It will throw you garbage or roses depending on the energy you put in. You are the one in charge, and you must accept that and stand alone. If you think God is coming down to fix things for you, forget it. God is out playing golf.” -Stuart Wilde

“Freedom is independence of the compulsory will of another, and in so far as it tends to exist with the freedom of all according to a universal law, it is the one sole original inborn right belonging to every man in virtue of his humanity.”-Immanuel Kant