One of the things we all must deal with as we walk through the world is losing a loved one. This loss can be sudden and swift or slow and painful, but no matter how this loss occurs, the pain of missing someone who is a light in your life is not lessened. There really can be no words to describe the empty void that is left behind. Inevitably life will continue as it must, and you will move on with your daily experiences because that is what we must eventually do. But those activities will always be brushed by the thoughts of our loved ones that have passed away.
As you do, create, strive, succeed, fail, change jobs, have a family, or love in your life, the accomplishments will never cease to be a source of pride for those loved ones we have lost because they always will be proud.
Never worry about losing them because they are with you as long as they are in your thoughts. When you need the inspiration to create that perfect thing or courage to take that chance, think of them, and you will find it.
One of the greatest mysteries of life is death and loss. Don’t waste time asking why because you’re focusing on the wrong thing when you think of why you are focusing on how this loss affects only you and comforts your existence. We will fully answer it because how are we to know? Will wondering why change anything? It will not. Think about all of the good things a person brought to the table, a smile, a laugh, support, love, strength, courage. Define these many qualities through your loved one, and you will see the value in that person, and yes, you will miss them, as you should. You will go on to great things and carry their memory with you every step of the way.
Death is Nothing At All
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name.Please speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes, we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner. All is well.
Crossing the Bar
Sunset and evening star,
And one clear call for me!
And may there be no moaning of the bar,
When I put out to sea,
But such a tide as moving seems asleep,
Too full for sound and foam,
When that which drew from out the boundless deep
Turns again home.
Twilight and evening bell,
And after that, the dark!
And may there be no sadness of farewell,
When I embark;
For tho’ from out our bourne of Time and Place
The flood may bear me far,
I hope to see my Pilot face to face
When I have crost the bar.
Note ********* The bar referred to is a sandspit or similar promontory at the mouth of a river or harbor where tides have deposited sand over time. Hearing the wind and waves moaning off the bar usually means insufficient water to sail over the bar without grounding. Hence the second verse and its reference to a “full tide” or “high water.”
Quotes On Losing a Loved One
And with the morn, those angel faces smile, which I have loved long since and lost awhile. – John Henry Newman
Death is nothing else but going home to God; the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity. – Mother Teresa
Don’t be dismayed at goodbyes; a farewell is necessary before you can meet again, and meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends. – Richard Bach
For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity. – William Penn
Goodbyes are not forever.
Goodbyes are not the end.
They mean I’ll miss you.
Until we meet again!
(- Author Unknown)
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories a lane,
I’d walk right up to Heaven
And bring you home again.
(~Author Unknown)
Life is eternal, and love is immortal; And death is only a horizon, And a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight. – Rossiter W. Raymond
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, and love leaves a memory no one can steal. – From a headstone in Ireland
God pours life into death and death into life without a drop being spilled. – Author Unknown
Death ends a life, not a relationship. – Jack Lemmon
Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries, it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death. – Author Unknown
Thinking and talking about death need not be morbid; they may be quite the opposite. Ignorance and fear of death overshadow life while knowing and accepting death erases this shadow. – Lily Pincus
To live in the hearts, we leave behind is not to die. -Thomas Campbell
We don’t want to happen but have to accept things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without have to let go. – Author Unknown
When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. – Author Unknown
When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. – Kahlil Gibran
Love here on earth
Love beyond the grave
There are no roads
My love for you can’t pave.
(- T. Sachs)
May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be ever at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rainfall softly on your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.
(- Irish Blessing)
Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains. – Kahlil Gibra Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy. – Author Unknown
The caterpillar dies so the butterfly could be born. And, yet, the caterpillar lives in the butterfly and they are but one. So, when I die, it will be that I have been transformed from the caterpillar of earth to the butterfly of the universe. – John Harricharan
Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality. – Emily Dickinson
When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul laughs for what it has found. – Sufi aphorism
While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil. – John Taylor
You and I will meet again,
When we’re least expecting it,
One day in some far off place,
I will recognize your face,
I won’t say goodbye my friend,
For you and I will meet again.
(- Tom Petty)
