I have failed to be responsible in many ways throughout my life. I have been selfish, short-sighted, greedy, and petty many times. These experiences have led me to the conclusion that I needed to become responsible for my actions in the world and the energy that surrounded my actions or lack of action.
I am Responsible for My Actions
There were too many times when I didn’t do anything productive in my life. I spent my time just entertaining myself to get through the day. Watch this, buy that, listen to another thing but ignore the actions you could take that actually provide value and contribute to a better world. As you get older, you start to understand that this game of life we are in does have a time limit, and all of the time you waste on selfish endeavors is permanently passing you by.
You have a responsibility to your life to act. There is a choice of what those actions will look like and what they will accomplish, but there is no choice that you are responsible for the results of your choices. You choose to gossip, understand the negative results that energy will bring to your life. When you choose to treat someone poorly in business, you are choosing to reap the cost of that action in your life. You are responsible for all of the choices that you make.
Manage Your Time be Responsible
Manage your time wisely, and that means two things to me. First, you realize that time is finite, and every moment that passes is precious and provides an opportunity for you to do something great or do nothing at all. The possibility exists for all things, and the person who decides what those things are is you.
Secondly, I think that the game could be over at any moment. One of the things that life doesn’t give you is an expiration date. The game of life could be over today, right now at this moment. Understanding this truly will make a person want to leave nothing undone. There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come, so get done today what you can contribute. All you can manage really is the moment that you are in.
Don’t Look Back
There is no way to go back in time and change the mistakes you have made. As much as you would like to, it isn’t possible. Accept responsibility for your actions by learning from your mistakes and moving forward with all of your experience, and try to make the world a little bit better by doing so. You are responsible for this in your life, and nobody else can help you.
“The price of greatness is responsibility.”- Winston Churchill
“Accepting complete responsibility for your life means that you refuse to make excuses or blame others for anything in your life that you’re not happy about.” – Brian Tracy
“Accept the terrible responsibility of life with eyes wide open.” – Jordan Peterson
“Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home, it’s your responsibility to love it or change it.” – Chuck Palahniuk
To give completely is one of the best things that you can do for your well-being. Giving completely means that you expect absolutely nothing in return. Whether it is money, love, or kindness, giving without expecting a return will change your life more than anyone who receives something from you. Think about the energy that you are giving today. Is it positive? Or is it something else?
There Is A Joy in Giving
There is a joy that comes from giving.
One of the most significant benefits that come from giving is the feeling that you get inside. There is a joy inside you that comes out when a gift is given, and you know that someone has received something valuable and cherished you were responsible for creating. This feeling of happiness stays with you. There is a huge difference between giving freely and what happens during the holiday season. Give free gifts, be grateful for the gifts you get from others. Giving doesn’t come out of obligation or for status. That is not giving, that is a job.
Giving Connects Us
When you give to someone, there is a natural closeness that develops between yourself and the receiver. It doesn’t matter if it is a person or an organization. When you give a gift, there is a natural connection and interest in the welfare of that entity that exists.
I think that often at Christmas time, there is a lot of giving that is just going through the motions, and the gifts are not for the benefit of someone else but out of a sense of obligation. Obligations don’t promote joy or happiness, and they produce a feeling of pressure and chore like a duty that does not lift your soul but drives it down. The connections built through giving can be powerful and enjoyable and can enhance your life. Look to give every chance that you can.
Receiving is a Part of Giving
Giving is reciprocal, meaning that to be a good giver, you have to also be a good receiver. For me, sometimes the receiving is a difficult thing to do. However, to get all of the things we are looking for in life, we need to be willing and grateful receivers. Having the humility to receive and appreciating a gift given to you allows you to have a much larger understanding of gratitude, caring, and love for other people. Complete the circle of giving and be a good and grateful receiver of gifts from all of those in your life.
Giving is Catchy
Like many things in life, giving has a way of spreading its joy around. The person receiving a gift is going to look for ways that they can give as well. Your thoughtful and caring gift to someone can inspire them to give. That can move that person to give as well, and soon your gift of giving has led to a flood of giving that never would have happened if it wasn’t for the initial giving. By giving, you could be responsible for a chain reaction of love that flows through many different gifting opportunities.
Giving is an act that is beneficial to all parties involved. If you are looking for ways to build wealth, then giving freely is a great way to get the energy of abundance flowing your way. The alternative is to live in a feeling of scarcity, and it is impossible to build anything substantial from that mindset. Give with a free heart, and receive the same way, and you will have a happier and more enjoyable experience in life.
“For it is in giving that we receive.” ―St. Francis of Assisi
“Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give.” ―Ben Carson
“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.” ―Albert Einstein
To keep moving through life, we all have to believe that something better awaits us in the future. We need to hope. No matter where you_ are right now, and there is a potential for a future that contains anything that we can conceive of. This is limitless.
If life is going great, then it can get better. If things aren’t going as well as you would like, it can improve in the short order. That is called hope. In a world where suffering is a part of life, hope is why we undergo healing from our wounds to search for happiness and our connections to life. Hope changes your life.
How Hope Feels
Hope is the feeling that can sustain you through your dark times, mistakes, and failures. It shines a light in the darkness, and no matter how dark it is, there is a promise that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It encourages you to keep moving forward. Some people see hope as dangerous because it might stop you from realistically assessing your situation. Hope does not cloud your judgment, and it motivates your action.
Real hope provides you with the courage to move forward, try again, and find a way to better your life and all of your circumstances. This is not blind optimism that leads a person to nothing, nor does hope ignore the challenges in your way or the enormity of the task at hand.
Your place is not to sit on the sideline and watch as things happen to you and your dreams. Your place is to be in the game, trying, learning, and trying again. That is how life works, and with a bit of hope, you keep moving forward. It is the hopeless way to quit and stop trying.
Ideas of Hope
Hope brings you the idea that even though things look tough and you face some dark challenges, you can see a way for life to get better. It is the fuel that allows the inventor to try again after a failure. It is the force that makes the athlete practice more than anyone else. Hope is the business owner’s motivation to push forward with his dream, despite those that question them.
In life, there will always be those who don’t believe in you, but the specter of hope can push your actions past the doubters and toward success. Without hope, a person will wilt and shrink from the challenge. Be vigilant in your thoughts and goals, don’t let someone else’s negativity stop you from achieving your greatness.
“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.”~Thich Nhat Hanh
“Remember, Red, hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” ~ Shawshank Redemption
There is no such thing as normal. Normal is a word that will bring a different vision to everyone’s mind, but to me, each vision is biased by the thinker’s experiences. My normal may seem ludicrous to you, and what you do each day as a matter of life may seem out of this world to someone else. The point is that there is no need to appoint a value of “normal” to anybody or anybody’s life. We all do what makes us comfortable and happy. Do what makes you happy and be your best self, regardless of what labels the world tries to put on you.
Labeling and Judgement
It is important to avoid putting a label on people because along with that label comes a laundry list of expected behaviors and stereotypes that come with it. These labels are just another way of packaging an individual up into a combination that you can easily understand. When you place negative judgment on people, you rob them of their individuality and their potential contribution.
When I am at my best, I accept all people for what they are. Each individual will think differently, act differently, like different things, and conform to their own idea of normal. This individuality is the greatest spice of life.
Take a moment and read a few different blogs. Without looking too hard, you will be able to find a wide range of ideas in a concise search. You can stretch your own idea of what is normal and broaden your horizons a bit in that short time.
Many Colors Make Things Beautiful
The world would be incredibly boring and probably not all that healthy if everyone looked at the world with the same understanding of normal. There would be no variance in music, art, or interest of any kind. All people would march to the same drummer. There would be no unique flavors, no differences whatsoever.
Some of the world’s greatest people are great because of their ability to look at the world and see a different reality than most others.
That is what makes up great art, wonderful creations, and scientific advances. Thinking outside the box is not a “normal” activity, but the ability to do so can result in great understanding and, in some cases, wealth, fame, and great contributions to our world.
Glad To Be Me And Thankful for YOU!
I have a great deal of gratitude for the fact that there is no normal. This gives you the ability and licenses to be exactly who you are and to contribute your own unique talent to the world each day. Don’t worry about what others think, do not concern yourself with how society looks at your ideas. Concern yourself with finding what makes you the individual you are and be the best you possibly can.
I have learned the most from people who have very different thoughts than I do. That doesn’t make them wrong. It makes them different and allows me to grow as a person and take the nuggets of knowledge from each of them. We are all on a journey and will be given different lessons to help us on our way. There is no singular right way to look at things. That is where many people seem to get off track with labels, stereotypes, and judgments. Look at all points of view and try to understand them. This doesn’t mean that you agree with them. It simply means you understand them.
Today, I am grateful there is no normal and am thankful for all of the “Not Normal” people I know in the world. I thank them all for the many things they have taught me and the enjoyment of seeing them shine!
Life is full of moments, each with its own individual fanfare and trumpets calls. It is up to us to find the joy to embrace in each of these moments or notice the potential each day brings. Some live their life missing today because there is a constant focus completely on the past. Creating their identity out of the regrets about what happened yesterday, last year, or twenty years ago. Regret gives us a poor present to live today. Most of what happened is a fantasy anyway. It is proven we don’t remember much of what happened accurately, only through our own perception of events. Even if you are accurate in your recollections, can you change it? Even a little bit?
Today, this moment is all there is for you, and the more you branch out your attention from that, the less opportunity there is for enjoying the here and now. Keeping your focus on the task that you are working on will allow you to enjoy life.
All That You Do
In everything that you are doing, if it is worthwhile, you should be doing it well. We should strive to complete everything that we undertake to the absolute best of our abilities. There are times when our best may not be enough, but more often than not, it will be. I would only regret something today if I didn’t give it an honest effort and try. If something doesn’t work out how I think it should, then I have an opportunity to learn. It is in those lessons lives are defined, and new efforts can spring.
Regrets come from thinking about what might have been, so the only way I can regret what I am doing is if I could have done it any better. If I spent time looking backward, I would miss the opportunities for success, enjoyment, and fun existing in this very moment I should be paying attention to. But instead, I am regretting what I said to someone thirty years ago or how I shouldn’t have done something way back then. This is a waste of time because you can’t change the past, and if you could have done better at that moment, you certainly would have. Today I am trying to pay attention to what I am doing so that I won’t regret them later.
I strive to be focused in all that I do and give my best effort to do it in the best manner I am capable of. Using the lessons I learned from the past and leaving the past where it belongs, far behind me.
To Be or Not to Be
The question of whether our being or existence was worthwhile has been asked throughout time. Some people have one bad experience taint everything else that comes in their life. It can happen when you are young and becomes the excuse for everything going wrong throughout life. There is no need to have a childhood or an adult trauma define everything about your current life. We all have obstacles or insecurities to deal with to see ourselves and our lives clearly.
Once that trauma drama is overcome, and you see yourself for what you are, a creative, one of a kind, giant capable of doing just about anything, then you will not regret a moment. Each second is driving you toward your best self and what you are capable of. Who is to say that the bad experience in your life wouldn’t end up being the catalyst for you to spring to greatness. It is only an anchor if you keep yourself tied to it. Never regret your being. I know I don’t, and neither should you!
Time to Have it All
What you have is really depending on how you look at life. Do you regret that you don’t own more possessions to stack up? I don’t think the number of “things” you possess matters at all. Although things may provide momentary pleasure, it is just a fleeting moment that passes as quickly as dusk slips into darkness. Then to feel good, you need to have more stuff. Stuff is not going to satisfy your soul or lead you to happiness. Only appreciating the moments of life and what they bring right now can do that.
The love of the people in your life will lead you to happiness in the giving and receiving that relationship. Of this substance, I am not sure that you can have too much. Love is the kindness one shows to another when they are feeling down. Love is the acceptance of a person’s idiosyncrasies and to still claim them as your other half. Love, caring, and kindness is attributes that make life enjoyable, and these feelings will last inside of you as long as you focus on them. When the smell of a new car or the shine of the latest technological gadget has long faded, those you love and the feelings of joy will remain with you.
You may be able to trick yourself for a season or two into thinking that stuff will make you happy, but in the end, the emptiness that is inside you can only be filled by the love of people, and it starts by loving yourself. NoRegrets happen when you combine your thoughts of the past with your perceptions of their outcomes. It would help if you tried something else. If you only would have gone sooner. I should have known what would happen. All of these regretful thoughts do nothing to change the past. They only muddy up the waters of today, making tomorrow more difficult to get to. Leave regrets in the past, enjoy today, and hope for the best tomorrow possible.
I Regret nothing. I learn, and I live.
“We all do things we desperately wish we could undo. Those regrets just become part of who we are, along with everything else. To spend time trying to change that, well, it’s like chasing clouds.” – Libba Bray.
“We don’t have to be defined by the things we did or didn’t do in our past. Some people allow themselves to be controlled by regret. Maybe it’s a regret, and maybe it’s not. It’s merely something that happened. Get over it.” – Pittacus Lore.
“If only. Those must be the two saddest words in the world.” – Mercedes Lackey.
“Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only good for wallowing in.” – Katherine Mansfield.
“The only things I regret, and the only things I’ll ever regret, are things I didn’t do. In the end, that’s what we mourn. The paths we didn’t take. The people we didn’t touch.” – Scott Spencer
“Don’t live your life regretting yesterday. Live your life so tomorrow you won’t regret today.” – Catherine Pulsifer.
I made mistakes but held on to my faith……….No Regrets, No Regrets!!
All of the things we do every day are to find true safety and security. The relationships we build, the jobs we work, the friends we make, the places we go, everything we do is build this illusion of being safe and secure. It is only an illusion. No matter how hard we work to establish a life with no danger, we are all continually susceptible to suffering. So, where do true safety and security come from? It can never come from outside of you; it can only come from the inside of you. This is the only place it can exist and grow in any real way for any of us. The human experience is full of pitfalls and ugliness, along with the magic and beauty we can see every day. It is time you started looking at the things stopping you from seeing what is stopping you. It is your limiting beliefs.
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
Our beliefs have been formed over the experience of our lives. As young people, we look to our environment to see where we fit in and survive and thrive. We look at our role models and listen to the lessons we are taught. We also are very good at feeling our way and where we fit. When we find a situation causing pain or trauma, we create a limiting belief about it. Pushing trauma away, hiding it inside of us, denying the suffering it causes and the pain you feel is creating a mess from your childhood that will affect you for the rest of your life until you make an effort to deal with your emotions around it.
The only way to overcome these childhood traumas is to learn to accept your pain. Whatever it was, no matter how big it was to you and your development, accept it. That doesn’t mean you approve of it, or like it, or forgive anyone for things they did. It simply means to accept it happened, you felt how you felt, it is over, you are still here. Accepting it will take power away from that trauma, and you move past a hurdle of pain you have been carrying all of your life. You will be able to move past it into a positive relationship, career, and life. Seems like a good deal to me. Accept the experiences you have had in your life.
Building Real Security
Moving into a structure of real security inside yourself takes effort and conscious thought, but anyone can do it and become invincible. First, be present at the moment at hand. All we have is right now, don’t spend time waxing poetic about the past or worrying about the future. Think about the future but don’t build an attachment to what has to happen. Thinking of things you want to accomplish and taking organized steps toward these goals works. Obsessing and worrying about all the things you think can go wrong or must happen will not.
Accept yourself for the person you are. Just like you accept your past, you have to do the same with yourself. Wishing you were something or someone else is a slap in the face to you and the greatness you have. Too many people look at their flaws and obsess about fixing what is wrong rather than looking at what is right and building on that solid and powerful foundation. Successful people don’t deal from a place of lack, they work from abundance, and we all have abundance. Open your heart to yourself and all that you have to offer.
Appreciate Life
Look at the world around you and celebrate what you see that is good. There are always reminders of how great the universe is. Sometimes we get so wrapped up with our own thinking we get run over by them. Rather than appreciating the rain, we complain about it. When it is sunny, we say it is too bright. Look around you and see the wonder that is always right there. Feel a connection to it and celebrate it. For example, you drive down the road and move past trees, lakes, birds flying, bright blue skies dotted with puffy white clouds, all pretty miraculous, but we don’t see them. Appreciate it all, life is a short trip, and it will be over before you know it. Don’t waste your time being self-centered and a prisoner of your thoughts.
Learning to have unconditional love for yourself and life all around you is one of the most difficult things to do. We are constantly getting hurt, emotionally, physically, and spiritually leading to an almost constant healing process. But as we heal, we learn, grow and become a different and most often better person. Being yourself and giving that to the world is a true gift. Some people will break your trust and reject who you are. That is their problem, not yours. You are one of a kind and incredible. Be you, and don’t worry about being accepted by negative people with small minds and smaller conscious thought patterns. Be the great you that you were destined to be!
Safety and security come through this path. You can build huge walls around yourself, but they won’t keep you safe in the end. Only being yourself, being vulnerable, and accepting all of the things about yourself can bring security. To do anything else is a definition of insecurity, and it is tough to be happy and healthy through a vision of insecurity.
Take action on your own vision. Your emotions are a clue to what you need to work on. How you feel in certain situations will lead you to the issues in you that need acceptance and a place inside you so that you can move past them into the best version of yourself.
“Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.” — Bruce Lee.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Viktor Frankl.
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw.
“The only journey is the journey within.” — Rainer Maria Rilke
“They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.” – Confucius
“We must become the change we want to see.” — Mahatma Gandhi
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” — Will Durant
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“What we think, we become.” – Buddha
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” — Napoleon Hill.
There are endless possibilities that exist in each new day. It can be difficult to remember this lesson sometimes when you see obstacles in your way. There may be reasons we can’t do what we want, go exactly where we want, or be the person right now we want to be. But these barriers exist in everyone’s life and serve as a chance first to understand what you would like to see in your life. And second, as a springboard for developing skills, talents, and toughness, you need to accomplish anything you want to in your life. Our problems are not pervasive or permanent. Change your perspective on the situation, and nobody can stop you. How do you do this? Look at the positive possibilities that exist all around you; they are there. Sometimes you have to work to find them.
Difficult Times Provide Possibilities
Perspective is a choice. To see something as insurmountable is a choice. To think that you will never have the power, strength, money, or thoughts to overcome a challenge is your decision. It is also your choice to see how things are shaping up because of what you have done so far and realize you need to make another choice. Perhaps the people you are spending time with are not positive or healthy for you. Choose differently. The possibility for happiness and fun is there in every moment of every day.
Each barrier and obstacle in your way provide an opportunity. How is that, you ask? Well, every time you face a difficult time, there is an opportunity to get over it or around it. This may take some growth on your part or stretching of your comfort zone, but it can be done. You have to be willing to try. Life is a journey from beginning to end, and it has a multitude of lessons. We are going to be continually learning and growing. Challenges come and provide the chance to be great. If you were never pushed, emotionally, mentally, or physically, then you would be happy right where you are, standing in place and leaving the goals to others.
Positive in Negative provide Possibilities
It can seem trite and simple to say that there is an opportunity for something positive in each negative situation. Tragedies happen all the time, and if we are fortunate enough to survive them, then we have a responsibility to find that positive possibility that will always exist. It needs to be looked for.
The choice, of course, is blame, bitterness, and anger. It is a valid choice, but the result will bring no positive presence to the world. It will only bring more tragedy, sadness, and fear.
Your challenges may be there to push you into becoming the best person you can be. Many dreams of having more wealth, love, and better health in their life, and the path to these things may travel through your challenges. Look at them however you want. It is a choice that you have, but recognizing the value and experience of your life will be colored by the choices you make. Just know all of the possibilities are there, just for you.
“The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react.” George Bernard Shaw
“The only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the buts you use today.” Les Brown
“I see possibilities in everything. For everything that’s taken away, something of greater value has been given.” Michael J. Fox
“I’m open to possibilities. I’m open to choices. I always welcome new ideas. I’m always eager to learn. I’m never going to close my mind from learning.” Cesar Millan
“Try to keep your mind open to possibilities and your mouth closed on matters that you don’t know about. Limit your ‘always’ and your ‘nevers.'” Amy Poehler
A limiting belief many people carry around in their minds is “History always repeats.” As a former history teacher, I know that general themes in history do repeat themselves in the broad scheme of life. However, this is not a given, and it takes a combination of circumstances and choices for any event to occur. This is particularly true in your life, don’t be limited by the concern or fear that events from your past are simply going to play again in your mind. Forget your history.
Live for the possibility you have right now in front of you. The past is over, and history can’t change it. Did you make a mistake? Accept it. You can’t change it now anyway. Understand that if you could have done better at that moment, you would have. Now you have grown and developed more maturity and tools to help you cope and deal with situations life throws at you.
Forget your history of Fear and Worry.
The real problem with this belief is that it causes constant fear of the bad things we have experienced. They hurt and were painful, and who would want to go through that again? Yet, we spend a lot of our time worrying and preparing, just if that situation rears its ugly head in our lives. If you sincerely believe that bad things are going to come, then they most likely will.
Patterns do happen in life, but how many of them occur because we allow them to. By spending so much time worrying about them and fearing certain things, we actually create the circumstances that create them. Not one worry or fear ever added anything positive to your life, certainly not as hope and love will. Where your focus lies has a lot more to do with the events of your life today, much more than your history ever will. Forget your history. Focus on the potential of today. It is as great as you want to make it.
Nothing is Guaranteed; forget your history.
There are no guarantees in life that anything is going to happen, which is true about difficult things and positive, easy things. History always repeats robs a person of some freedom to make choices in their lives. We have choices in every second of life to have this experience or that one.
Should I work or watch Netflix? Write something or create nothing? Move or stay? All of these are choices that come in all moments of the day. You are the driver of this vehicle called life, and it doesn’t matter what has happened in the past. All roads are open to you. Your past is history, and history is in the rearview mirror life is not moving that way. Don’t let the limiting belief of history always repeats dim your future. Forget your history. Focus on your future.
Make Your Future Great
The time that you see that the options for you are wide open. A few alterations here or there, and you can see what might happen. Your choices will determine how much happiness and personal fulfillment is in your future. Only you and your thoughts can make history repeat. Choose not to. You choose your life, and your past has very little to do with it unless you allow it to. Forget your history.
Today may be the day that you achieve that dream, meet that person, accomplish that goal, your life changes for the better in radical ways. Forget history and live.
Are you aware that everything we think and do matters in the reality we create? This is not something that I knew all my life, and it is a concept that I think everyone should contemplate at least a little each day. When you are looking at your life experiences and wondering why you are where you are, look back at your thoughts, choices, and actions of the past, and there will be a direct connection to the path that you are on right now, the job you work, or the relationship you are in. Your life is the extension of what you believe about yourself and the world.
You Can’t Fool Everyone.
As a young person, I thought I was pretty smart. There were times where I could manipulate situations through lies and deception to make things work out my way seemingly. I told lies to people that nobody could have possibly known were not true. I believed there was no harm in manipulation or deceiving someone else for a short-term gain. Yet, that has not been the case. I have paid the price for every deception I have ever perpetrated in my life in the long-term.
All of your choices have repercussions. The energy in your life is going to attract more of the same. If you deceive, prepare to be deceived. If you lie, prepare to be lied to. If you are honest, get ready for honesty from others. It is a fact of life, and the way life works. I wish someone had told me this earlier. I was never as smart as I thought.
It IS How Your Play the Game
It is one of the greatest things about the Universe and how it all works that nobody really gets away with anything in the long run. Often I have seen a person seemingly benefit from doing something that is not right. It seems unfair that someone should benefit from doing something wrong, while those who do things right seemingly see no tangible benefit (besides having a clear conscience and morals and happy life). But you shouldn’t be upset because you are looking at the scoreboard in the middle of a contest, and the final score always tells a different story, one that defines how you played the game.
Doing what treats others with respect, understanding, and kindness is always the right thing to do. Follow this guide, and when the final score is tallied, you will be far ahead in any way that matters.
The Great Thing Is
There is no escaping the fact that in the end, thoughts that come from love lead to happy people, and the choice to react and think from fear generally leads to misery in the long run. To prove it, honestly look at your life and analyze something that you are not happy about. Make a list of the thoughts and actions you have about that thing, not only right now but in the past.
It is human nature to feel like we are being singled out and life isn’t fair, but when you do this little exercise, most often you are going to see what actions you took, thoughts that you had, or beliefs you cultivated that put you right where you are at this moment.
Here is the part of being grateful for. This can change at any moment. There are countless stories about people who seem in a day to have changed their lives, themselves, and their circumstances. None of the personal changes we experience in life would ever occur if we didn’t make the conscious effort to change the way we think about something or a belief that we once held.
We all have the same ability to make these changes, and they start with our thoughts. I am grateful that all that we think matters.
You make a choice every day about how your scoreboard is going to read.
The most potent constant in life is the experience of change. We try to ignore it, and if things are going well, we resist change, but inevitably and continually, change is occurring all the time, and how we deal with the changes that we face will define our life experience. Change doesn’t have to provide a painful experience. It is our attachments to what was that causes the pain. Allowing modifications to enter our lives rather than fight against it will determine a lot about your enjoyment of life.
Hang On For All You Are Worth
When the winds of change are blowing hard in your life, people usually have some pretty predictable responses. The most common reaction is to grasp hard and fast to whatever is changing and try to keep it the same. It has been my experience that it doesn’t matter if the change results in greater happiness or not. It is the things that are known that are important to most people. Even if it is painful and not healthy, at least you know what you can expect from it. Change brings many unknowns with it, and even if it is good, the unknown is very scary for many people. They naturally resist.
Fear causes people to hang on to the past for all they are worth and refuse to let go. Let go of the doubt and accept the new change as bravely as possible. The odds are that it will bring something new and more positive in your life. Either way, the difference is happening how you deal with it will determine your existence’s mood.
Enjoy the Adventure of Change
Change brings with it the last opportunity for new and beautiful possibilities in your life. Embracing the energy of transformation can guide you toward a dream you always have had. If you are not where you want to be in life, only change can take you there. Looking at change as the most exciting thing that ever existed will allow you to enjoy the adventure that change brings into your life. The unbroken line of possibilities is just waiting for you to join them.
New job, new relationship, new workout routine, new ideas, new thoughts, new life, the change will bring all of these to your life, and none can arrive without it. Most of us sit by idly, fearing the steps that change requires. We cower in the corner grasping to practices, people, and things in our lives that are not working in any way, shape, or form — not realizing that by getting rid of things that aren’t working, we create a space for something or someone who will work.
Look for the change in your life each day and embrace it as a great opportunity. Life is a non-stop movement from one place to another, from birth to death and everything in between. It is up to you to learn the lessons, understand the differences, and experience the adventures that come with life. Some will be monumental in stature, while others will be small and easy to digest. All of them will guide you along the path of life and make the journey a much more exciting ride.
When life brings changes you are not wild about, Chances are when said and done.
Who’ll be the lucky ones who make it all the way? Though you say I could be your answer, Nothing lasts forever, no matter how it feels today. Chances are, we’ll find a new equation. Chances roll away from me. Chances are all they hope to be.
“Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”
“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
I have failed to be responsible in many ways throughout my life. I have been selfish, short-sighted, greedy, and petty many times. These experiences have led me to the conclusion that I needed to become responsible for my actions in the world and the energy that surrounded my actions or lack of action.
I spent my time just entertaining myself to get through the day. Watch this, buy that, listen to another thing but ignore the actions you could take that actually provide value and contribute to a better world. As you get older, you start to understand that this game of life we are in does have a time limit, and all of the time you waste on selfish endeavors is permanently passing you by.
possibility exists for all things, and the person who decides what those things are is you.
There is no way to go back in time and change the mistakes you have made. As much as you would like to, it isn’t possible. Accept responsibility for your actions by learning from your mistakes and moving forward with all of your experience, and try to make the world a little bit better by doing so. You are responsible for this in your life, and nobody else can help you.
