Some great thoughts by Alan Watts about the dream of life. That all of life is a dream that is getting more and more surprising over time. Each lifetime is a dream and the ending of the dream is unknown and surprising for each person. Each dream goes further and further and then you dream about living the life that you are living today. Everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality in your life. We are all that only we are pretending we are not.
“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” ~ Alan Watts
Understand that there are great gifts that come with getting older, we shift into a new understanding.
The recent passing of Dr. Wayne Dyer has led me to contemplate some of the thoughts that he provoked in me that led to my own personal growth. One of Dr. Dyer’s projects was called the Shift. The shift was a movie and a book about finding your true purpose in life and doing the things that truly make you happy. It teaches many wonderful lessons, and the project has a lot of layers. You can watch it more than once and something new will jump out at you each time. The shift is the natural movement in life that we experience as we age and become more experienced. We shift in personal empowerment. Here are some of the lessons I learned from this wonderful project.
We are Connected You and Me
We start to look at the world and see the connections to everyone and everything. As younger people, most buy into a philosophy of competition and separation. We are all connected with each other and everything and that is a phenomenon I would never have considered 15 years ago.
Money Doesn’t Matter
The motivations of life change as you move along in life. It isn’t the material possessions and the money that motivates you anymore. Now it is the ethics of a situation and the people we are associating with. It is also the peace that we find in the quiet moments of life. As younger people, there are no quiet moments of life. That is the way life is. Serenity comes with contemplation and understanding of what makes you truly happy in life.
Miracles Can and Do Happen
One of the greatest shifts is that we move toward accepting the possibility of miracles in our lives. To believe in this possibility will provide a wonder to your life that will energize you. Not everything can be planned out and you are not responsible for the actions of the Universe. If you let them and look for them, you can see miracles almost every day. Miracles can be a part of your life.
Quiet Times are Valuable
Meditation should and can be pursued as a daily practice. I personally never considered meditation as a practice when I was younger. I saw it as a waste of valuable time. Now I think that there is no more valuable way to spend your time. Looking to make your mind quiet allows you to speak to your soul. That voice is much quieter than your mind but is rarely wrong. I learned to listen.
We are Connected to Everything
Being an individual in the world can be a scary thing. When you realize that there is part of you in all things, you feel much less alone and the fear dissipates. Look at the sky, the trees, the animals or any part of nature and if you look closely you can see yourself. There is a feeling of connection to the world that only humans can experience.
Acceptance is Better than Judgment
Finally, the need to judge everything and everyone lessens and disappears. You realize that all people are fighting their own difficult battles in life and in different circumstances, you could be right where they are. People make a million decisions each and every day and sometimes they do not have positive results. There is no value in a judgment of others, it is only through acceptance that your personal power can grow. Judgment is not hurting those you judge but the one who is doing the judging.
In the end, I am sure that I am not saying anything that others haven’t already learned from Wayne Dyer, but for me, his voice allowed life to make a lot more sense to me. The movie The Shift is available for free online for the next week. I urge you to take the time and watch it.
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Thank you for a lifetime of inspiration. Rest In Peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer.
Dr. Wayne Dyer Passes at Age 75: The World Loses a Great Spiritual Leader
One of the things we all must deal with as we walk through the world is losing a loved one. This loss can be sudden and swift or slow and painful, but no matter how this loss occurs, the pain of missing someone who is a light in your life is not lessened. There really can be no words to describe the empty void that is left behind. Inevitably life will continue as it must, and you will move on with your daily experiences because that is what we must eventually do. But those activities will always be brushed by the thoughts of our loved ones that have passed away.
As you do, create, strive, succeed, fail, change jobs, have a family, or love in your life, the accomplishments will never cease to be a source of pride for those loved ones we have lost because they always will be proud.
Never worry about losing them because they are with you as long as they are in your thoughts. When you need the inspiration to create that perfect thing or courage to take that chance, think of them, and you will find it.
Remember and smile, for there were happy times that I will never forget.
One of the greatest mysteries of life is death and loss. Don’t waste time asking why because you’re focusing on the wrong thing when you think of why you are focusing on how this loss affects only you and comforts your existence. We will fully answer it because how are we to know? Will wondering why change anything? It will not. Think about all of the good things a person brought to the table, a smile, a laugh, support, love, strength, courage. Define these many qualities through your loved one, and you will see the value in that person, and yes, you will miss them, as you should. You will go on to great things and carry their memory with you every step of the way.
Death is Nothing At All
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are. Call me by my old familiar name.
Please speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes, we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner. All is well.
Sunset and evening star,
And one clear call for me!
Crossing the Bar
And may there be no moaning of the bar,
When I put out to sea,
But such a tide as moving seems asleep,
Too full for sound and foam,
When that which drew from out the boundless deep
Turns again home.
Twilight and evening bell,
And after that, the dark!
And may there be no sadness of farewell,
When I embark;
For tho’ from out our bourne of Time and Place
The flood may bear me far,
I hope to see my Pilot face to face
When I have crost the bar.
Note ********* The bar referred to is a sandspit or similar promontory at the mouth of a river or harbor where tides have deposited sand over time. Hearing the wind and waves moaning off the bar usually means insufficient water to sail over the bar without grounding. Hence the second verse and its reference to a “full tide” or “high water.”
Quotes On Losing a Loved One
And with the morn, those angel faces smile, which I have loved long since and lost awhile. – John Henry Newman
Death is nothing else but going home to God; the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity. – Mother Teresa
Don’t be dismayed at goodbyes; a farewell is necessary before you can meet again, and meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends. – Richard Bach
For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity. – William Penn
Goodbyes are not forever.
Goodbyes are not the end.
They mean I’ll miss you.
Until we meet again!
(- Author Unknown)
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories a lane,
I’d walk right up to Heaven
And bring you home again.
(~Author Unknown)
Life is eternal, and love is immortal; And death is only a horizon, And a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight. – Rossiter W. Raymond
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, and love leaves a memory no one can steal. – From a headstone in Ireland
God pours life into death and death into life without a drop being spilled. – Author Unknown
Death ends a life, not a relationship. – Jack Lemmon
Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries, it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death. – Author Unknown
Thinking and talking about death need not be morbid; they may be quite the opposite. Ignorance and fear of death overshadow life while knowing and accepting death erases this shadow. – Lily Pincus
To live in the hearts, we leave behind is not to die. -Thomas Campbell
We don’t want to happen but have to accept things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without have to let go. – Author Unknown
When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. – Author Unknown
When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. – Kahlil Gibran
Love here on earth
Love beyond the grave
There are no roads
My love for you can’t pave.
(- T. Sachs)
May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be ever at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rainfall softly on your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.
(- Irish Blessing)
Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains. – Kahlil Gibra Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy. – Author Unknown
The caterpillar dies so the butterfly could be born. And, yet, the caterpillar lives in the butterfly and they are but one. So, when I die, it will be that I have been transformed from the caterpillar of earth to the butterfly of the universe. – John Harricharan
Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality. – Emily Dickinson
When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul laughs for what it has found. – Sufi aphorism
While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil. – John Taylor
You and I will meet again,
When we’re least expecting it,
One day in some far off place,
I will recognize your face,
I won’t say goodbye my friend,
For you and I will meet again.
(- Tom Petty)
A Taoist awakes and for no reason decides to go for a stroll. He walks for a while, and with his stomach growling, he stops to meditate. His thoughts are clear as he sits upon a well-used rock. He “just is” happy because his days are fruitful when the wind takes him to this well-worn path.
In the distance, he spies a Buddhist ascending the cliff that separates the path. He “just knows” the man follows the ways of the Buddha simply by the route that he chose and the look on his face. The Taoist meets many types of men on his walks and the Buddhist will say, “My search will not be abandoned at any point in my struggle.” People often come to the Taoist for his wisdom theTaoist is reluctant to speak.
His Tao is quite simple but not well received. When the Taoist was young, he attempted to explain to all that would listen. It is his manner to be kind and open, but he discovered, with the effort being extended, he was not acting as the Tao had intended. He “just knows” to share his wisdom only when properly persuaded, and a Buddhist has the ability to be quite persuasive.
The Meeting
The Buddhist is well prepared as he travels along the Eightfold path discussed in the Buddha’s teachings. A Buddhist is full of desire, and because he tries so hard to define it, he is determined to avoid it. The Taoist would have simply explained to the traveler that just by desiring not to desire and defining struggle in the context of desire the achievement of enlightenment is most impossible. He would say, “I desire nothing because my basic desires are noble and I am provided with all that is needed.” The Buddhist along with many others just cannot grasp the concept of it all.
The Taoist “just knows” the Buddhists are all close to a place they call Nirvana. They feel as he does that all living beings belong to the world and the environment must be respected. He feels that their thoughts are misguided in their absolute quest for knowledge. This knowledge, required for the existence of the Taoist village, is only sought when the Tao deems it necessary. If the village needs a doctor, the Tao will provide. He “just knows” that the Tao, as long as he does not resist it, shall never let him suffer.
A little help
The Buddha’s teachings claim that humans are responsible for their suffering and it is all caused by their “unrestrained dispositions.” Desire is the cause of all suffering, and following the eightfold path to enlightenment, by living a moral life, is the only way to be free from desire. It seems rather foolish to the Taoist that the Buddhist put so much work into something that is achieved so little effort.
The effort is necessary for the Buddhist because, unlike the Taoist, he must resist the pleasure of the senses. The Taoist lives for pleasure. He finds appeasement in enjoying all the energy of the world, and he “just knows”, by enjoying the environment, with all his senses, he is more able keep clear of thought acting only on intuitions becoming closer to the Tao by losing his desires.
When the Taoist is following the Dao, the excessive desires that cause misfortune are avoided. The Taoist only strives to fulfill his place in the Tao any effort contrary incurs bad consequence. The Taoist desires what is true and natural, and all needs are met without any conscious thought.
The Buddhist is always thinking while striving for enlightenment and this is why he awakes the Taoist from his trance. The Buddhist hopes to discover why the man appears completely comfortable while sitting on the jagged rock. He asks the Taoist why he appears so aloof. The Taoist smiles broadly and asks the Buddhist why he appears so troubled. The Buddhist explains that he is on long journey and desire rest, but if he rests his journey may be extended.
The Taoist, though he has heard the story before, ask the Buddhist to sit, and explain his troubles. The rest now takes on purpose so the Buddhist’s rest will not be seen as acting on his desires. The Buddhist accepts the invitation and beings to explain his struggle and his “middle way” to enlightenment. The Taoist assumes a hypnotic state, as he watches the Buddhist contently. The Buddhist is friendly and shares all that he has, with friend or stranger, so they have quite a feast.
When the day turns to dusk and the wind shifts direction, the Taoist explains he must return to his family. The Buddhist begs the Taoist to reveal his secret though the Taoist explains that his way (Tao) has no secrets but is “elusive and distinct”, and though it exists, it is hard to explain. The Buddhist is persistent in his request and offers to give the Taoist all that he carriers. The Daoist agrees but only is provided with what he needs and can comfortable carry.
The Taoist explains, “We, as you know, are one with all things. All the animals we see have no less value than you or me. Why do they seem so happy and free acting on the desire that is intended be. The answer to this question is quite simple; you’re trying too hard, dude.”
The Taoist then thanks the man for his kindness, and with the wind at his back, heads for home. He “just knows” that most people, like the Buddhists, will never understand his Tao to happiness. People may say his Tao is foolish, and ask how does he survive without wanting? His desire is satisfied by instinct so excessive desire does not rear its ugly head. It is at times when he thinks and second-guesses his actions that cause trouble.
Troubles are avoided when his Tao is spontaneous, which brings about normative action. The Taoist is a true believer because his actions produce the best result with the least amount of effort. With his family fed and his belly full, the Taoist sleeps comfortable, while preparing for another day of sharing his wisdom.
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Contributing writer; Mike Martin
Born in Greenville, Maine, Mike Martin has three children and lives in Belgrade, Maine with his beautiful wife Shannon. He has served as the executive director of Touch Tanks for Kids since 2005. He has a BA from the University of Maine at Augusta and served in the United States Navy for six years as an engineer.
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Taoism (also spelled Daoism) refers to a philosophical or religious tradition in which the basic concept is to establish harmony with the Tao (道), which is the mechanism of everything that exists. The word “Tao” (or “Dao”, depending on the Romanization scheme) is usually translated as “way”, “path” or “principle”, although the word literally means “nature” as in the nature of all things as well as the natural world. Taoism had not only a profound influence on the culture of China, but also on neighboring countries. While the philosophical Taoism is not institutionalized, the religious Taoism is institutionalized and present in multiple countries. Taoist philosophy is deeply rooted in contemporary China, and is an unavoidable part of modern Chinese life.
Quotes of the Tao:
When you are but slightly involved in the world, the effect the world has on you is also slight. When you are deeply enmeshed in affairs, you machinations also deepen. So for enlightened people simplicity is better than refinement, and freedom is better than punctiliousness.
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People are considered pure of heart when they do not approach power and pomp; but those who can be near without being affected are the purest of all. People are considered high-minded when they do not know how to plot and contrive; but those who know how yet do not do so are the highest of all.
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When you are constantly hearing offensive words and always have some irritating matter in mind, only then do you have a whetstone for character development. If you hear only what pleases you, and deal only with what thrills you, then you are burying your life in deadly poison.
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Late at night, when everyone is quiet, sit alone and gaze into the mind; then you notice illusion ending and reality appearing. You gain a great sense of potential in this every time. Once you have noticed reality appearing yet find that illusion is hard to escape, you also find yourself greatly humbled.
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Blessings often give rise to injury, so be careful when things are going your way. Success may be achieved after failure, so don’t just give up when you’ve been disappointed.
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Blessings often give rise to injury, so be careful when things are going your way. Success may be achieved after failure, so don’t just give up when you’ve been disappointed.
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There is a true Buddha in family life; there is a real Tao in everyday activities. If people can be sincere and harmonious, promoting communication with a cheerful demeanor and friendly words, that is much better than formal meditation practice.
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Don’t be too severe in criticizing people’s faults; consider how much they can bear. Don’t be too lofty in enjoining virtue, so people may be able to follow.
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A grub in filth is dirty, but it changes into a cicada and sips dew in the autumn breeze. Rotting plants have no luster, but they turn into foxfire and glow in the summer moonlight. So we know that purity emerges from impurity, and light is born from darkness.
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Conceit and arrogance are acquired states of mind. Conquer acquired states of mind, and basic sanity can unfold. Passion and willfulness are part of false consciousness; erase false consciousness, and true consciousness will appear.
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Think about food on a full stomach and you find you don’t care about taste. Think of lust after making love, and you find you don’t care about sex. Therefore, if people always reflect on the regret they will feel afterward to forestall folly at the moment, they will be stable and will not err in action.
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Those who have come to an impasse should examine their original intentions; those who have succeeded should note where they are heading.
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When the rich and well-established, who should be generous, are instead spiteful and cruel, they make their behavior wretched and base in spite of their wealth and position. When the intellectually brilliant, who should be reserved, instead show off, they are ignorant and foolish in their weakness in spite of their brilliance.
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After one has been in a lowly position, one knows how dangerous it is to climb to a high place, Once one has been in the dark, one knows how revealing it is to go into the light. Having maintained quietude, one knows how tiring compulsive activity is. Having nurtured silence, one knows how disturbing much talk is.
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To conquer demons, first conquer your mind. When the mind is subdued, demons withdraw obediently. To control knaves, first control your own mood. When your mood is balanced, scoundrels cannot get at you.
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In matters of desire, don’t get hastily involved because of easy availability; once you get involved, you will sink in deeply. In matters of principle, don’t back off for fear of difficulty; once you back down, you will lose your ground entirely.
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When people are determined, they can overcome fate; when the will is unified, it can mobilize energy. Enlightened people do not even let nature put them in a set mold.
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When the liver is diseased, the eyesight fails; when the kidneys are diseased, the hearing is adversely affected. The disease is not visible, but its effects are. Therefore, enlightened people, wishing to be free from obvious faults, first get rid of hidden faults.
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There is no greater fortune than having few concerns, no greater misfortune than having many worries. Only those who have suffered over their concerns know the blessing of having few concerns. Only those who have calmed their minds know the misfortune of having many worries.
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In dealing with good people one should be magnanimous; in dealing with bad people one should be strict. In dealing with average people one should combine magnanimity and strictness.
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Do not think about whatever service you may have done for others; think about what you may have done to offend them. Don’t forget what others have done for you; forget what others have done to offend you.
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When those who give charity do so without any sense of self-satisfaction and without any thought of reward, even a small gift is great. When those who aid others calculate their own sacrifice and demand gratitude and recompense, even a great gift is small.
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Your own feelings may be reasonable or unreasonable; how can you expect others to always be reasonable? It is useful to see things in this light and thereby correct the contradictions in your expectations for yourself and others.
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Those in public office who do not love the people are thieves stealing salaries. Those who teach but do not themselves practice what they teach are mere talkers. Those who try to do successful work without considering development of character will find it insubstantial.
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In the mind engaged in struggling with hardship, one always finds something delightful. The sorrow of disappointment arises in the complacency of satisfaction.
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The learned should be vigorous and diligent, but they should also be free-spirited. If they are too rigorous and austere, they have the death-dealing quality of autumn but lack the life-giving quality of spring. How can they develop people then?
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If the mind is illumined, there is clear blue sky in a dark room. If the thoughts are muddled, there are malevolent ghosts in broad daylight.
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People know that fame and position are pleasant, but they do not know that the pleasure of anonymity is most real. People know that hunger and cold are distressing, but they do not know that the distress of not experiencing cold or hunger is greater.
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If you fear that people will know if you do something bad, then there is something good in bad. If you are eager for people to know when you do something good, then there is something bad in good.
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The workings of heaven are unfathomable—sometimes encouraging, sometimes suppressing. All this makes sport of heroes and tumbles the great. Enlightened people take adversity in stride and are prepared for trouble even when at ease; therefore, they are not at the mercy of fate.
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One should not seek happiness, just nurture the spirit of joy as the basis of summoning happiness. One should not try to escape misfortune, just get rid of viciousness as a means of avoiding misfortune.
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The road of truth is broad; set the mind on it, and you feel expansive openness and broad clarity. The road of human desires is narrow; set foot on it, and you see brambles and mire before you.
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Soil with a lot of manure in it produces abundant crops; water that is too clear has no fish. Therefore, enlightened people should maintain the capacity to accept impurities and should not be solitary perfectionists.
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Even a wild horse can be tamed; even metal that is difficult to work eventually goes into a mold. If you take it easy and do not stir yourself, you will never make any progress. It has been said, “It is no disgrace to have many afflictions: I would worry if there never were any afflictions.”
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Some great thoughts by Alan Watts about the dream of life. That all of life is a dream that is getting more and more surprising over time. Each lifetime is a dream and the ending of the dream is unknown and surprising for each person. Each dream goes further and further and then you dream about living the life that you are living today. Everybody is fundamentally the ultimate reality in your life. We are all that only we are pretending we are not.
is also the peace that we find in the quiet moments of life. As younger people, there are no quiet moments of life. That is the way life is. Serenity comes with contemplation and understanding of what makes you truly happy in life.
things, you feel much less alone and the fear dissipates. Look at the sky, the trees, the animals or any part of nature and if you look closely you can see yourself. There is a feeling of connection to the world that only humans can experience.
Thank you for a lifetime of inspiration. Rest In Peace, Dr. Wayne Dyer.
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