Patience- the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
One of the more difficult things to master in life is to be patient. We all have desires and ideas we want to manifest for ourselves. Sometimes though, we have to practice a little patience before what we want becomes a reality in the world. Patience is a skill we can develop over time, and you learn from experience that sometimes it takes a little while for favorite things to happen.
Facing It
Let’s face it, the best meals are not produced instantly, and they take time. That is the way of most valuable and durable things. It would be best if you had time to adjust to situations, develop skills, or make room for whatever is coming your way. You can have a valuable talent if you maintain a positive attitude while waiting for your goal to be achieved or your dream to come true. The younger you are, when you start developing patience, the easier the trials of life will be for you. It all begins with an awareness of your thoughts, the emotions that result, the words we speak, and the actions we choose because of the best. Think of something that requires your patience and practice this skill right now.
Letting Things Develop
It is human nature to want things immediately. We live in a world of instant gratification. All of our whims and desires are brought to us instantly at the drop of a hat. Food, entertainment, information, or just about anything you want is available right now. All we have to do is ask. If you have to wait 20 seconds for an answer from Google, most are very impatient. So I understand patience is not something the world develops today in any significant quantity. But we should try to build some patience. Some things should always take a little time, which is not bad.
In life, dreams are not achieved overnight. They start with a thought, and then we take action to begin to come together in the best way possible for you. When you hurry or force things, they don’t work outright, and the goal desired is pushed further back because of your actions. It also makes it easy to give up if we don’t get immediate results. All situations provide an opportunity to learn something. Even if that something is difficult, it may be the key to accomplishing the long-term goals you are looking at. Be patient and enjoy the process of creating a dream. Those experiences will become the cherished memories of life.
Not Your Door
Honesty with yourself is always a virtue when it comes to accomplishing something—looking at your progress and evaluating the steps you have taken and the steps you need to take in the future. Sometimes we get on a path we are sure is the right way, but there is one problem after another as it develops. You have to wonder if you are moving in the right direction at these moments. That questioning is a part of developing patience. Perseverance is a virtue, but sometimes a door won’t open for you simply because it is not your door.
Your door is in another direction or on another path, and it may only be a slight alteration. Being patient and finding the right direction for you is a skill every person should develop. Too often, we are hit with initial resistance, and we assume that something isn’t for us. We only need to readjust our sails and move our ship in a different direction. The change for success may be a small one, but it is a talent to have the courage, faith, and strength to give it a try. Patience in your journey is valuable in helping you find your door.
Patience With People
Try to be patient with people in your life. We are all on a journey from beginning to end. However, very few of us are at the same point of the trip. Some people travel roads of thought and growing awareness, and others travel less intricate roads. Understand that all people are doing the best they can with the information and experience. Even though their actions make no sense to you, they are perfectly sensible to the people doing them. We can only control ourselves.
Travel your roads as best you can and let your choices and decisions represent you. Other people have their issues, and their thoughts and actions are none of my business. Even if they are making a mistake, those can be valuable learning experiences for others. As long as they are not hurting anyone else, let others gain relevant learning experiences. This patience with others is difficult, especially if you care about them. But they have to learn their way. Be patient with the process. Allow those you care about to find their way, and you do the best you can to find yours.
Finally, Be Patient with Yourself
This idea can be the most challenging form of patience to foster. You know what you want in life. You also are well aware of your weaknesses and where you have fallen short. Falling is not the end of the world, and it is just an experience you choose to learn from or be buried by. Get in the habit of looking at yourself with softer eyes than you have. After all, you are the only you there is. Development to become what you want to be can take time. Allow yourself to learn the skill, develop the talent, invent the thing, or create the painting you are dreaming of. Creating without a constant hostile barrage of self-talk will all be more comfortable.
Learn to be patient with yourself and let your talents bloom in their own time and fashion. It will all start with an increased focus on your thoughts, emotions, words, and actions. You might find what you are looking for if you practice a little patience.
“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.”- Jean-Jacques Rousseau
“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”- Leo Tolstoy
They are allowing– Permitting for things to move without resistance and evolving and growing naturally.
Life is a journey, and that is not just a cliche. It is a fact we live with every day of our experience in life. One of the human problems is that people always feel they have the best answers to issues and feel we must do something to achieve all of our goals in the most efficient manner possible. People obsess over the minute details of life and often don’t allow the natural path of growth to occur. Having a good work ethic can be a detriment because we learn that doing nothing is lazy and wrong. But sometimes, nothing is the exact right thing to do. Allow things to grow and develop into what they should be. Allowing is difficult because you have to trust that things will move as they should. It all starts with a conscious awareness of your thoughts surrounding a situation, the words you use to express the case, and the actions resulting from the problem.
You Can’t Force Things.
To see how allowing works, look at nature all around you. Trees, animals, plants, flowers, or anything that lives and grows all manage quite nicely without outside influence. No matter how intelligent you are or how much money you have, there is no way you can make a plant thrive. Each entity goes through its life cycle of development naturally, and all we can do is help where we can and allow it all to take its course. It makes you wonder where we should adopt this attitude in our own lives and allow for things to develop naturally in the best way possible.
People are very good at creating situations where there is a perception of control. But that control is only on the surface, and chaos is always only a second away. A loved one dies, an accident happens, you lose a job, a relationship ends, a relationship begins, or any other of the million things you can’t control or plan for happens. You realize you were never in control of anything in the first place. This experience is a scary realization, but also it is empowering when you realize all things are working, even without your input. Events are moving toward their inevitable conclusion and will grow or stop in how they were meant to occur. You are just a part of the plan, not the creator of that plan. That is a harsh realization for many people.
Lose the Grip of Control
As you look to take control of every situation in your life, realize that you have never been able to or will never be about to control the outcomes of life’s circumstances and manipulate them in the way you think benefits you. Things will all take place without the control and guidance of stuff they have no chance of working out as we wish them to, helping us. But do we have the vision to know what is in our best interest?
Often it seems that the tighter your grip on trying to control things stops them from progressing and growing as they naturally would for the benefit of all. We have a vision based on our beliefs and ideas of how things should go. But, if we let things play out as they should, we could receive benefits and great experiences we never thought of or imagined. It is hard for people to let things be and develop independently, but that is the only way to get a harvest. Please do what you can to help but allow the seeds to grow and produce as they are best capable.
Do You Know The Best Possible Outcome
It doesn’t matter if it is in business or personal relationships; you do not know the best possible outcome for any situation. You may think you know, but one thing I know for sure is that you don’t. Things may turn out exactly as you planned, but you will never know how much better they would have been had you allowed them to develop in their manner. A minor success could have been a home run, a life-changing event. The ultimate answer to a challenge you face could have materialized—all by allowing the solution to come rather than forcing it by having to be correct.
There are many different paths for a trip to reach its destination that no matter how much we plan, we will not be able to see them all. You have to develop trust with the Universe, God, the force, or whatever you choose to call the power behind life. Please make a choice you think is best, take action and let it grow in the best way it naturally can. We don’t have enough information to understand the best possible outcome of the battles we are fighting.
Acceptance is The Answer
Learn to develop patience with yourself that you don’t always have the best answer, and you are improving continually in life. Lessons will be available to you, and learning them is the growth that makes being an experience of value. Control is only an illusion that we can never attain, we can fool ourselves into thinking we can, but it is not real. Be open to what may be coming your way because it is what you need to experience at this moment.
Let go of the need to control and allow life and its things to develop around you. This is patience that wise people I have met seem to work with if not master. Things fall into place without much effort at all because that is their natural state. Don’t let fear and the worry it provides stop you from allowing things to happen. This journey is the flow of life, and letting go of the fear of not being in control is often the only thing you need to allow the best-case scenario to happen to you.
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” ~ Brian Tracy
“The power is not in wanting but in allowing things to happen.”
The number one goal of life for many people is to be happy. Most seek this outcome over all others, or they say being happy is what they want the result of their choices to be. I was making a little list of things that might turn the tide for you in the direction of happiness. My thoughts are going to lead you to a store of positive emotions. These will lead to the words you use, and all of this will lead to the actions you take, which will make you happy or not, depending on your mentality. Look at this advice and see if it will work for you today to provide you with a more joyful experience. Happiness always comes from within. Make your own within a happier place. The following is my advice to be followed or ignored as you see fit. It is the steps I try to take every day. I try.
1. Never Forget You Are Great
You Are Great!
Sometimes we make bad choices. Sometimes our learning experiences are not so pleasant. These are all just events happening outside of us and have nothing to do with who we are inside.
There is no goal that you can’t reach or success that you can’t attain if they are willing to be dedicated to getting there.
Don’t let what anyone else tells you, thinks about you, or acts toward you change the goals you feel in your heart are for you to accomplish. Sometimes your peers, your teachers, parents, or the world will tell you things that make you feel like you are not a great human soul with endless possibilities.
If they do, ignore them, they are just trying to bring you down. You can do anything; your light is perfect and doesn’t need to be adjusted because of others’ thoughts and ideas. Follow the flash of inspiration inside of you and create as it guides you.
Sometimes we forget this and accept less than we should from our experiences. If you clear all the rubble of life away, underneath, there is still a force of greatness. Never forget it is there, and you will find happiness.
2. Follow Your Passion
Always follow your passion.
I don’t care what you do in life, be a banker, a lawyer, a dancer, a carpenter, or whatever it is that makes you happy, but you must be the best you can when you follow that vocation.
Too many people choose a career because of what their parents or society thinks will provide a good living. Or it will be a safe and productive choice. This direction will make you end up in a career that is not fulfilling and ultimately leave you feeling unhappy in life.
When you choose what to do with your time, do what you are passionate about in your life. Choosing this path will allow your heart to expand, your mind to grow, and for you to come alive as a person. It is difficult to be unhappy when you are feeding your essence with creativity. Do what you have a calling to do.
3. Be Kind
You can either make someone’s day or provide a hurt that
Remember This!
May never heal. Kindness is free, contagious, and good for everybody. Look for ways to be kind to everyone you come in contact with today, including yourself. Understanding is infectious and has the side effect of happiness. You will make the world just a little bit better by being kind.
People in the world have forgotten how great they could be, and they spend a lot of time being miserable. Misery loves company, so they spend much of their time trying to make everyone else feel as bad about themselves as they do.
Please don’t pay any attention to this and recognize the actions for what they are. Being kind and understanding is not always easy, but it is still right.
Stay away from judging people and their behaviors because you will never know what experiences they have had.
Understand that there is greatness in everyone, and perhaps some people will never be able to reach their best, but you never know. Maybe your kind word or action will propel them to greatness.
It is a sure thing a selfish act or an unkind word or deed will never help anyone. Help people when you can. Be kind.
4. Be Patient
Patience is not an easy thing to practice. But not all things come instantly, and often the best stew takes a little time to cook. Understand that good things are coming to you if you want them and take action toward them. Just practice patience and enjoy each step of the journey. It is often the journey we will remember fondly as we look back on our triumphs.
There are a perfect time and a place for everything in your life. When you are a kid growing up, I understand there are a lot of pressures placed on
Be patient, and enjoy what life has for you today.
You to get older quicker, and you feel like you will be ready to make your own decisions, and you will have the opportunity to make many.
Be patient, don’t grow up too fast, enjoy being a kid as long as it is appropriate because you will never be able to go back.
No matter how it feels when you are in high school, good or bad, that is a concise part of your life, and it won’t define your life. It is just something that you have to go through. You may be popular, or you may not. In the end, it doesn’t make a difference in the type of individual you will grow into.
Treat people with goodness and strive to be true to your greatness. Be friends with all kinds of people because they will broaden your horizons and your perspectives on life. Growing up is an awkward, exciting time full of social learning and development, but it is only a few years of your experience, and it doesn’t amount to much. Take time to enjoy it, learn from it, and leave it behind when it is time. Be patient with yourself and your journey. One day you will look back and think wistfully of those days. Know you got the most out of them.
5. Think Outside the Box
Since you are a great human soul and able to accomplish anything you want, don’t let
Think outside the box
society puts you in a box and restrains your power in any way.
From the day you go to school, they will try to teach you how to think. Learn how to read, learn how to do the math, learn what they tell you about history, but never forget that you are free to think anyway that you want.
Think outside the box; all great things were accomplished outside of the box, not following someone else’s prescription for life.
Think creatively, and look for answers that nobody has ever thought of before. Be original in your thought, and you will find innovative solutions. The world needs much more of this than cookie-cutter responses that an educator believes to be correct. Don’t let them put you into a box; you are more significant than that!
6. Choose Friendship Wisely
Be friendly with everyone, and look for the good in them, but only allow those you can trust into friendship. Many people who were
Expect the best from yourself and little from others.
Apparently, friends will be nowhere to be found when the inevitable trouble hits your life.
There will be a few, though, who will stick with you no matter what, and those should be cherished and never forgotten. Nurture those relationships, give them time and effort because they are unique.
The older you get, the more these jewels will reveal themselves, and the false friends will fade away into yesterday.
Most people enter your life for a season because you need to learn something from them or let them learn something from you, and when that season ends, they or you move on. Enjoy the seasons and don’t turn them into anything other than what they are. People can raise you or drag you down, seek the former and avoid the latter.
7. Never be afraid to fail
In my life, I have noticed that I shy away from things that I am not sure about, and the reason is that I am so scared that I might fail or make a
No Fear For You!!!
Mistake.
Never be afraid to make a mistake or to fail. These failures or mistakes will only define the act, not the person committing them.
Often you will learn your most valuable lessons by trying new things, and when you fall short, you will have an opportunity for growth and understanding.
The problem comes when, as people, we take our failure personally and let it define us.
This label makes us not dare to try again because it hurts too much to fall short. Never let a misstep define you, decide, fail, learn, and try again.
Show your courage and character by not allowing your mistakes to destroy you and understand the valuable lessons you teach you.
You are great after all and will do great things; the lessons failure teaches you is most likely to help you move in that direction. You have unlimited possibilities.
8. Stay away from Organized Religion
Organized religion is designed to control people and earn money for specific organizations. God did not create everyone and then disregarded most of the population because they don’t go to the right church.
These are fear tactics meant to diminish God and the greatness within you. Understand that God is about love, and anything that teaches division in any way is not from God but humanity.
When humanity creates differences with labels, they try to make themselves feel right by calling the other wrong. All are right if they are based on love; all are wrong that is based on fear.
9. Follow your Heart
When it comes to decision making, rely on your heart to decide on all other factors. Your head will think logically and weigh many options; your emotions will pull you in one direction or another, usually based on what will benefit you solely.
Let all of those factors pass by and make your decisions from your heart, and you will make the right choice, and nothing is more important than that. Learn all you can about the situation and do what your heart tells you is correct.
This correct action will be true in big and little things. As you develop this skill, there are bound to be mistakes made. Wisdom is not gained in a day, but use the errors to hone the ability not to go another way.
10. Be Honest
We make many mistakes, but always be honest about ourselves and accept the consequences of them.
A person will judge you based on your word, and if you often tell lies, your credibility will be gone, and it is not quickly gained back. Tell the truth in all things, be honest, and life will work much easier for you.
11. Accept Help
Because people are independent, oftentimes, they will need help but won’t ask for it because they don’t want to be a burden or are afraid they will look weak.
Never be afraid to ask for help if you need it, you don’t know everything as high as you are, and it may be that the person you ask for help will benefit as much from rendering the advice as you will from receiving it. Be as willing to accept it as you are to give it.
12. Love over Fear
Every emotion and thought you have will come from one of two branches of the tree of life, and they are fear and love.
Fear will make you feel angry, sad, mad, jealous, or any other negative feeling, whereas love, happiness, patience, flexibility, understanding all stem from desire. Those are the thoughts and feelings that allow you to enjoy life as you are living it.
It is a choice which branch of the tree you spend your time on, spend it on love, and you will find life quite a pleasant experience, or spend it on fear, and you will most likely be unhappy.
I can give you and urge upon you all of this advice, but the beauty of this game called life is that you have to play it for yourself and find out the joys and wonder that awaits you. I can’t do it for you or take away all the risk because my game is different from yours. It all starts with your thoughts, which lead to your emotions, words, and actions. Advice is a way to make sense of and provide value to our own experience.
“Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.”- Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
“Many receive advice, only the wise profit from it.”- Harper Lee
“I think that’s the single best piece of advice: constantly think about how you could be doing things better and questioning yourself.”- Elon Musk
“Know when to hold ’em, Know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away, know when to run.”- Kenny Rogers.
One of the more difficult things to master in life is to be patient. We all have desires and ideas we want to manifest for ourselves. Sometimes though, we have to practice a little patience before what we want becomes a reality in the world. Patience is a skill we can develop over time, and you learn from experience that sometimes it takes a little while for favorite things to happen.
want is available right now. All we have to do is ask. If you have to wait 20 seconds for an answer from Google, most are very impatient. So I understand patience is not something the world develops today in any significant quantity. But we should try to build some patience. Some things should always take a little time, which is not bad.
path we are sure is the right way, but there is one problem after another as it develops. You have to wonder if you are moving in the right direction at these moments. That questioning is a part of developing patience. Perseverance is a virtue, but sometimes a door won’t open for you simply because it is not your door.
best they can with the information and experience. Even though their actions make no sense to you, they are perfectly sensible to the people doing them. We can only control ourselves.
yourself with softer eyes than you have. After all, you are the only you there is. Development to become what you want to be can take time. Allow yourself to learn the skill, develop the talent, invent the thing, or create the painting you are dreaming of. Creating without a constant hostile barrage of self-talk will all be more comfortable.
