As I have written several times, developing a growth mindset in life seems desirable. Simply because whatever you want to achieve or add to life is there for the taking once you set your mind. You have to be willing to work for it and build improvement. More than just the accomplishment results, it leads to an enjoyment of life that you can experience doing even the simplest of tasks.
The fixed mindset sees a world of the can or can’t but no development and doesn’t dare to place itself on the line of looking “foolish.” Rather than accepting that life is a learning process full of different things, like a school that never has graduation. Just when you think you have it figured out, the curriculum changes. Creating a growth mindset allows that change and gives you the tools to enjoy the experience.
Learning Is Power
People who go into something they have never done and feel foolish for making mistakes operate from a fixed mindset. If you develop a growth mindset, you will never feel stupid when learning something new. You will jump into the process with both feet and see what you can do with this new knowledge. It isn’t just the learning. And it’s the process of learning that is fun and exciting and allows you to move your mind, body, and spirit into new experiences.
Learning as an opportunity for growth rather than the answers on some tests will become an enjoyable experience that you seek. Some with a fixed mindset see their learning experience ending when they are done with organized school. That is usually in the early ’20s. Those who stop learning at that point are in for a harsh awakening later in life. Learning is a lifelong process, providing pose in living and givegivesle an opportunity for continual adventure and growth. It keeps things interesting and makes this ride an enjoyable experience.
The Disease of Perfection
Perfection is a word that many people think of, which destroys people’s enjoyment in almost any experience. People create an unrealistic expectation of perfection about their jobs, families, or life experience, and they will miss out on the joy life has for them. It is not the finished products in life that provide joy; it is the steps along the way. Find joy in these moments, and perfection doesn’t matter. What is perfection but worrying about how something looks to someone else? We are never what other people think of us. We are a collection of our experiences, and ignoring these real things for an idea that never exists seems to be the definition of insanity.
Vince Lombardi, the legendary football coach, once said, “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.” I think that is true, but the goal should always be excellence in attitude, behavior, and how we treat others. On the way to greatness is the chase, which you need to learn to enjoy. It is always there in the small moments of life, which are never perfect but have kindness, joy, empathy, romance, adventure, strength, and any other positive you can imagine. Avoid the disease of perfection, which will take away the enjoyment of your life and replace it with disappointment. Disappointed is a hard way to live your life.
See Setbacks as What They Are
Many people see a setback in their life and feel it is a personal judgment against them. They find it difficult to move past hard things. You lose a job or a relationship, and things don’t work out as you hoped. All of this can put you in a negative mindset. But the growth mindset knows that the current score is not the final score, and there is a lot more game left to go. Bad things hurt, and nobody wants to suffer, but suffering has a place in life. It provides motivation. Look at your situation as a step in the journey, not the destination.
You can never say what the result of any circumstance will be in the long term. Too often, our shortsighted fears stop us from accepting a painful thing as needed to reach a new height. Some people spend so much time focused on the moment’s pain and the fear of what might come next that they never recover to live their life. Setbacks are as helpful as successes, and sometimes more, and they show where our weaknesses lie and teach us valuable information. The growth mindset knows that a failure today can be a final success in the future because the lessons learned and the knowledge gained is just what you need to improve and experience success.
Look at your thoughts and your reaction to things today and decide if you are operating from a growth mindset or not. Don’t let setbacks throw you, don’t fall into the trap of perfection, and learning is a great experience, always!!
“Every success story is a tale of constant adaptation, revision, and change.” —Richard Branson
“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” —Abraham Maslow
“The great solution to all human problems is individual inner transformation.” —Vernon Howard
“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t living.” —Gail Sheehy
“The way must be in you; the destination also must be in you and not somewhere else in space or time. If that kind of self-transformation is being realized in you, you will arrive.” —Nhat Hanh
Learn-gain or acquire knowledge of or skill in (something) by study, experience, or being taught
Day to day, we strive for enjoyment and understanding. No matter our age, we must focus on what we can learn to make our life a better, more enjoyable experience. People are too often satisfied with their knowledge base and never think there is anything else they could or would ever want to learn. This is a limiting mindset in all areas of life, personal and professional. You will never know it all, but you can always try to learn it all. Each day is a possibility to learn something new. Focus your consciousness on what you can learn today in your thoughts, words, and actions. There is always something for you to pick up or try. So don’t be too limited in what you do. Gain or acquire knowledge or skills today, and make your life more enjoyable and productive.
Being Self-taught
The greatest invention in history is the internet because of the vast and nearly unlimited amount of information available to every person. If you desire to learn, you can create a curriculum to study. Learning styles don’t even matter because there are several mediums available. There are videos available on how to do just about anything you can imagine. Teaching yourself how to do almost anything will take the desire to do it and the willingness to do a little research.
Knowledge has never been so accessible, and the freedom that comes with those facts can lead you to a new job or a new life. All of the excuses we tell ourselves are irrelevant because there is access to quality content at the touch of a finger. Study, and you will learn. It is up to you if you use the internet to feed your mind or deaden its senses.
Learn from Experience
One of the best ways to learn is through experience. We can’t help but find growth this way. Unfortunately, the experience is not a very kind teacher and has no regard for your feelings and temperament. Many lessons you will learn from experience will be painful, uncomfortable, and trying to the soul. Many are not good students and need to get the same lesson over and over again until they finally gain an understanding of what they need to know.
However, the benefits of experience are free to everyone equally and when we learn well, navigating our way through life is more manageable, and we are better at making choices and finding the things that are good for us and all others. Experience is not personal; there is no punishment for its pupils. (Although it may feel painful.) It is the greatest equal opportunity experience creator you will ever come across. It is up to our awareness, wits, intelligence, and needs how difficult the lessons experience gives us. Appreciate your experience of what you can learn and be a good student. You will continually get the same lesson until you learn the lesson you need to learn. If you are experiencing the same thing repeatedly, look at your attitude and thoughts.
The Power of Being Taught
There are kind-hearted and caring teachers out there as well. These souls genuinely want to help you improve at whatever skill they possess and want to share. An apprenticeship of life can provide value to you that is beyond measure. Unlike experience or self-study, you can delve into the already hard-earned gained knowledge someone else has earned. By paying attention and learning, you can avoid making the same mistakes or “reinventing the wheel” and move on from the point your teacher has reached.
What you do with this head start is then up to you. Are you satisfied with being at the same level? Or do you want to take that ship of knowledge and sail it into the open sea to find out what it can do? That is the real challenge with anything you learn. How will you use it? If you can find a capable person willing to share their knowledge. Grab ahold of that blessing. Sometimes we can’t do it all by ourselves. Life will provide the teachers you need. Recognize them and learn.
Each day is born with potential. What you do with that is up to you. Putting your focus on what you can learn will allow you to have an exciting and continually expanding life. Let all the teachers of study, experience, and other teachers help you along the way to learn at the highest level you are capable of. Focus your thoughts, words, and actions on the things you can learn, and your life will be a richer experience for all.
“Change is the end result of all true learning.” Leo Buscaglia
“The expert in anything was once a beginner.” Anonymous
“Learning and innovation go hand in hand. The arrogance of success is to think that what you did yesterday will be sufficient for tomorrow.” William Pollard
“Learning is the only thing the mind never exhausts, never fears, and never regrets.” Leonardo da Vinci
“Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere.” Chinese Proverb
Life is a strange play. We move through many of our days, never thinking things could be any different. But things are always in a constant state of flux, for the one constant we experience on a minute-to-minute basis is change. It washes over our lives in inevitable portions, perhaps not wanted, but it still comes anyway. When things are not so pleasant, there is hope that changes will bring relief from what you are experiencing today. When things are going well, we hide from change because it will ruin all of our current conquests and the kingdoms we have built.
For me, the last year was an experience in the latter. Things changed for the worse as people I relied on left my life seemingly complete proportions. There was nothing I could do, and I have spent the past months trying to pick up the pieces that used to be me and see where they fit. The feeling of significant loss is a form of suffering, and I can be aware that I had built too many attachments to the way things were. Perhaps too much trust too soon in some people. I have spent too much time looking at the past and wishing things would magically snap back to where they were a year ago. But that hope is holding me back from moving forward into whatever the following stages of my life will bring, which can be equally good if you allow them to happen. Loss is still something you need to grieve, which I have been doing lately.
Shutting Doors
When you look at all the cycles in your life, it can be challenging to find the courage within yourself to shut the door at that time in your life. Even if it was painful, disappointing, or negative, there are positive things about people and experiences you might not want to let go of. So you leave the door open just a sliver looking for the memory of that good thing to open the door and walk back into your life. But it will not and the focus you spend looking toward that door, hoping, is not paying attention to the other entries you may be able to open, behind which great things lie.
Who knows what will be hiding behind the next door that opens. It could be great; it could be just ok. Life doesn’t often allow us to choose, and we can only decide our reactions to and actions once they are open. The only thing you can be sure of is that doors will continue to open for you as long as you are alive and functioning. To End, a chapter of your life on your terms can be next to impossible, but how you accept an ending is always up to you. To fight against it is the greatest form of suffering—resistance to the reality of your life.
Be The Force of Change
Each moment presents us with choices, to do what we always have, to believe as we have always believed, or to make a conscious decision to start to think about something else different from the past. In my experience, life provides us with cycles of life that serve to offer us lessons about how to live but, more importantly, about who we are. You can be proactive in your choices of dealing with change by deciding exactly how the end of your chapters will play out for you.
If you seek out the things that need to change and then take positive steps in the direction you want, you initiate the change in your life and create the action. In this way, you are being the hammer of change and involved in just what new things enter and old things end. My experience is that life will reward this type of situation with answers, knowledge, and clarity about your vision of where you can go and the joy you can experience. The hardest part of initiating change is the fear that it won’t work out. But it always does, in its inevitable conclusion. Life will work out if you let it and are willing to accept what comes your way. Only through acceptance can you thoroughly move forward.
Leave the Past
The bottom line in life is that you have to leave the past behind you and live in the present as best you can to make the future the best possible. The people who seem to live best are the ones who can recognize an ending, take a bow, let the audience applaud, and allow the curtain to close. Then take the makeup off, remove their costume and leave the theatre, moving into the next play of their life.
To continually relive old plays is a trap of mediocrity. Each stage we perform in life provides a purpose, and you should never forget the lessons, but do not try to live there. It will only stop you from moving forward. Leave your life moments that have finished where they are and move forward into a great new day. These are easy thoughts to think about but much more difficult in actions taken. Our minds connect to people and things. It is hard to let them go because it is painful when seemingly tangible things turn to dust and leave us. We need to be able to understand why. With the seeming hope, we can avoid painful losses in the future. Perhaps we can make the pain less, but I think pain comes with a purpose and the lessons we learn through it are lasting and valuable as long as you don’t let them make you bitter. Allow them to make you better!!!
“The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”Steve Maraboli
“Forget what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you.”– Shannon L. Alder.
“If you want to fly in the sky, you need to leave the earth. If you want to move forward, you need to let go the past that drags you down.” Amit Ray
“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” –Deepak Chopra
What Appears to Be the End is Only a New Beginning
It is hard to let go of things that have ended, one of the most difficult lessons you can learn is all things have a shelf life, and when it is time to move on, you need to be able to do this with faith. Understanding what you are moving toward is a piece of the puzzle you will need to achieve dreams and have positive things happen for you.
Relationships end, jobs are lost, people relocate, loss occurs, and even though there will be a natural pain coming with these experiences, it is a normal part of the grieving process. It isn’t easy, but it is part of being human.
Many people, including myself, have had issues moving on when a loss occurs. Even though it is obvious the time is ripe for change, new and exciting things are on the horizon. It is human nature to look back at the idealized safety we created in the past instead of moving with courage into a future, allowing you to chase and realize all of your dreams.
Moving led to new beginnings
Moving can be a traumatic experience for anyone, especially when you are a kid. I moved when I was 1, and at the time, I thought it was the biggest tragedy a person could experience. I had a great group of friends I had known all my life, and I knew where I fit in. I was comfortable and happy. Moving was traumatic. I had to deal with people who didn’t know me, and
Let Go And Begin Anew
might not like me. There was a lot of initial trauma, and I spent a lot of time worrying about what I was missing out on in life. Still, eventually, as I pushed through the new situation, I made some new friends and had experiences that I would never have had, both positive and negative, that led to growth.
Left to my own choices, I would have taken the most accessible road and missed some great things I have found. Everything in my life has led to growth, allowing me to evolve, and I learned valuable lessons. There was a lot of Idealizing of the past, but there is no way you can argue with your current reality.
Death and Dying
Experiencing a loss of a loved one is difficult to deal with, and nobody would ever characterize it as a good thing. Still, it’s my experience that you can gain something positive from this experience. Perhaps a better appreciation of the relationships you still have in your life or a greater awareness of the world around you. If you think of those who have passed with love, they are always with you. If they are inside your heart, mind, and spirit, a part of them is still alive.
Maybe the lessons that the loved one passed on left with you are lasting things. For myself, everyone whom I have lost has left a positive impact on my life. I am eternally grateful for the gifts they gave me. There were examples of how to live or how to treat other people guiding me through my life. I miss them all. I appreciate them all, they didn’t want to go, but it was their time. Cherish all who matter to you and treat everyone with kindness and dignity.
Losing a Job
When it comes to losing jobs, many have come and gone in my life. Some I liked and was sorry to see them go. Others not so much. In some cases it
Starting Over Is OK
seemed like the end of the world when the job ended. In retrospect, I can always see the positive that came out of a seemingly negative situation. It could be that it was personal growth or a better experience that allowed me to be happier as a person.
It can be devastating as you get older to start over, but what a great gift it can be to allow you to grow and find what will make you happy. My experience is that the real problems come when you spend your time worrying about the past instead of addressing today. As traumatic as losing a job can be, a job does not define who you are, and your life isn’t ended because you lost a job. Change is life. I have always chosen life.
Relationships Ending
Relationships, unfortunately, end at some point (sometimes). People move, things change, priorities differ, and unexplained cruelness. These lessons are hard to deal with, and these can be with friends, coworkers, or in intimate relationships. All relationships have a cycle, and it is just some are larger and longer than others. If you look at the entire board of life, all relationships eventually end—even the most reliable end with one of the participants’ death.
Every person who comes into your life is there for a reason and often teaches you something. There are friendships I have had that have been lifelong. Some relationships lasted for a few years or even a shorter time. I appreciate them because I have learned a lot from everybody I have ever met. Even those I wish never happened because of the pain they caused brought learning experiences to me. Although sorrow was the teacher, they have made me stronger and hopefully a bit wiser.
Sometimes the lesson was how not to behave or what not to do, but most often, the experience is about how you can grow as a person. Letting go and appreciating the lessons you learned becomes more complicated when emotions are involved. Love is one of the world’s best feelings, but the fear of losing love has led to many personal tragedies. Time is the only cure for love because eventually, everyone gets the lesson and appreciates the great things that love has given them. Ultimately, you have only two choices, learn something or be miserable. Which is a better way to go through life?
The next time you face an apparent ending, take a moment and attempt to add some perspective to the situation. Once you get past the fear of losing something, you may find a silver lining if you allow it to work in your life. Look at what you learned and gained in wisdom and experience. Take that lesson with you into the future, and appreciate those giving you something positive daily. Value the experiences of life, and don’t be afraid of the changes inevitably coming your way. You have changed, life has changed, and everything will change again before you finish with this ride. Embrace all the good moments you have and the people you spend them with.
“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling, but the staying down.” —Mary Pickford
“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” —Guy Finley
“The beginning is always today.” —Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” —George Eliot
Each of us has the opportunity each day to learn something. The only thing stopping us from learning information that will expand our minds, building our potential, and developing a greater understanding of the world and ourselves is a decision not to know.
Knowledge is the great equalizer for all people, and the choice to not pursue it will make you a smaller person and limit what you can do.
Growth Comes From Learning
Nobody was born knowing anything. Circumstances and opportunities have allowed some to learn things quicker and more comfortably. Still, there is no limit on most healthy people that stops them from gaining insight and knowledge other than themselves. Each day is an opportunity to learn something, and it would seem difficult to near impossible to prevent yourself from gaining experience. Still, our society does a good job of ensuring that learning is kept to a minimum.
This is done through a constant stream of disrupting and interrupting distractions in almost every way conceivable. Phones, social media, television, and streaming all combine to keep people from learning and using their minds to think and grow productively. Anger, fear, and hatred in any capacity also work to keep a person from becoming the best version of themselves.
Get Focused, and Nothing Can Stop You
Distraction is one of the best tools to deny a person from learning something new. We are bombarded with distractions throughout the day. From mindless entertainment on the television, computer screen, or tablet, we can be distracted from taking the time to learn something new. These continual interruptions and distractions keep our minds occupied with flashing lights and away from the actual thought process. Imagine what you could achieve if you took just a fraction of the time spent pursuing these activities and devoted it to learning something.
It has to be a problem with our educational system as well. Learning should be the most fascinating and wonderful thing a person experiences, yet most, when completing their schooling, are left wanting to stay far away from the learning process. This seems backward to me. How can we go to places of higher learning and not like to learn more about everything?
Knowledge is Key
The phrase “knowledge is the key” is probably overused or used so much that it has lost its meaning. It is the truth. The only limits to what you can achieve, socially, physically, spiritually, or in any other realm, are dictated by how much you know.
Acquiring new knowledge has never been easier. There is no topic that you can’t learn a lot about just using the internet. There has never been a more wide-open availability of information. You don’t need to go to college to find the answers you seek, and you need a device with an internet connection and a desire to know more. Anyone can become an expert in anything by merely devoting time toward what interests you.
Take some time for yourself today, whenever you can, and dedicate your mind to learning something new: a new insight, a new problem to solve, a modern philosophy of life. Time spent learning is the most precious time in life. You are learning because you want to, not because you have to or because it will bring you success or wealth. This education is the purest form of knowledge, and the determining factor of success or failure lies in your attitude toward learning.
“Ignorance is God’s prison. Knowing is God’s palace.”
Whatever you do and want to learn, don’t stop believing that you can accomplish great things!
Learn-gain or acquire knowledge of or skill in (something) by study, experience, or being taught.
One of the most powerful gifts we can have as human beings are the ability to learn. This strength is a process that we should continue to nurture throughout our lives because of the benefits the process provides the individuals experiencing it. You are never too old or too wise to learn something new. Make new things you’re learning today part of your consciousness in thought, word, and action. This plan is for the special people to mark the completion of learning something new. I congratulate them and encourage them to keep on learning as much as possible throughout their life experience.
Reading is Fundamental
I learned to read before I went to school. My mother taught me by reading to me every night, and I saw the magic in the pages of a book, and I took it upon myself from there to get the words right and understand their meaning. Reading was magical and essential. More so now, to me, than ever before. You can learn about anything you want to know simply by accessing the information and reading it. All information is available at the click of a button. In a book or reliable website, almost any information can be collected and enhance your life.
To read is a process of taking words and adding animation and imagination to them. It can take you anywhere and allow you an experience almost anything. With the simple use of your vision and the images you see when words enter your brain. Reading gives everyone an equal chance to achieve. Everything from the secrets of gardening to quantum physics is available for the curious to learn. Trust that reading is fundamental to the ability to learn.
Learning is Healthy
Learning is suitable for your mind, body, and spirit. There is confidence in knowing that you can learn about anything that interests you. To learn is to grow, and to grow makes you better at life. If something stops growing, it stagnates, which is as accurate in people as in nature. The difference is that people choose to learn or not, and you have an option to know or not.
Look at the times you felt most alive and experienced the most incredible sense of wonder. It is often when you learn something new, and your mind is expanded by previously unknown information. Those who have a passion for learning are nearly unstoppable. Again there is confidence in the ability to learn. We should encourage all people of any age.
Learn and Grow
Looking at our society today, I don’t think we are interested in growing the economy rather than growing individuals. The collective consciousness seems to be set on consumerism and selfishness rather than creating truly educated people. Our educational system is designed to produce workers and consumers but not learners. The goal is to provide skills that will allow a person to make a living, which is great until you learn that living is not a life. You can have both with the right encouragement.
Therefore, it falls on the person to be responsible for their learning and development. It is quite a minefield to navigate too. One has to overcome the continual distractions of entertainment and noise we face every day, all the time. It can seem like there is precious little time to focus on learning new things. Make the time. The quality of the life you build is your responsibility. Nothing can stop you but you.
Learn Something Every Day
This talent should not be a difficult task, there is a world of knowledge, and nobody knows everything. Pick a topic or activity you are interested in and learn something about it. Put it into practice in your life and see what happens. When you are conscious of your thoughts, words, and actions toward learning, what you want to learn will come to you. What is it you want to learn today?
Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow. ~Anthony J. D’Angelo
“PERFECT IS THE ENEMY OF GOOD.” –VOLTAIRE
“I’M STILL LEARNING.” –MICHELANGELO
“LIFE IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION.” –RALPH WALDO EMERSON
“LEARNING IS NOT ATTAINED BY CHANCE; IT MUST BE SOUGHT FOR WITH ARDOR AND ATTENDED TO WITH DILIGENCE.” ―ABIGAIL ADAMS
“YESTERDAY I WAS CLEVER, SO I CHANGED THE WORLD. TODAY I AM WISE, SO I AM CHANGING MYSELF.” –RUMI
We should all strive to have a purpose that gives our lives fuel. Days are spent either just existing or existing for a larger purpose. The goal can be to create a family, a business, a book, a political movement, a career, or any other thing that allows you to exist for a reason outside of just being you. You can constantly develop a purpose only by becoming interested in doing something and doing it. Too often, we get wrapped up in ourselves and mere existence that the reason for this life escapes us. But there is always a purpose. When the focus of life is selfish or achieving something outside of ourselves, we tend to sink into unhappiness, frustration, and anger. It is always better to change our view of things outside of ourselves.
What Is an Outer Purpose?
An outer purpose is going to happen outside of yourself, to create something in the future that isn’t here today. Setting goals is a valuable tool that will fuel your actions and push you to reach all of your destinations. Make your purpose the journey, not the destination. Too often, people look at their goals and use them as the be-all and end-all; they miss all of the valuable stuff we gather along the path. So there is no daily joy in following your purpose. If your goal is to make a million dollars, there will be many decisions, actions, thoughts, and experiences to make. Enjoy these as if they are your goal achieved because they will be.
Too many times, the destination becomes more important than the journey, and at that point, you are lost, and you miss out on the journey’s purpose. You are mainly focusing on the things outside of your reality and yourself—looking for the future goal and missing out on the powerful, intelligent, beautiful things that come along the way. We can live our whole lives this way if we aren’t careful. As children, we wait for school to end, then we will get a job, later a career, then a family, then retirement, and then death. We are waiting in each stage for the next step to bring us accomplishment and fulfillment, never feeling either of these two things because our purpose is aimed outside of ourselves. Aim your target inside.
What is Inside Purpose?
Well, it has nothing to do with where you are going. It has to do with the journey to get there. Like riding in a car, if you are not happy until you reach your destination, you miss out on the great things the ride offers. The view, music you listen to, or company you have as you ride. How you get where you are going is vital to the development of your purpose. We all have a consciousness, and some are more aware than others. But we choose how awake we are to our mission in our world. At this moment, it is the only thing you have for sure. To not make the best of it is foolishness. So look at the step in your journey you are at right now and be conscious of the power it has. You can choose to be frustrated and cynical or to learn whatever the moment has to give you. That is your purpose.
To live in the awareness of the present moment is not easy but will deepen your consciousness and provide a more fulfilled life experience. Letting the outside negativity of worry, fear, and want to dictate your behavior will lead to a life of complaining, anger, frustration, and lack. The outer journey of life may take a million steps to get where you want to go. The inner journey has only one, the level you are on right now. To see this is a purpose, and to embrace this step is the purpose. Look at your day and what you are learning or teaching. It could be specific information, or it could be an example you or somebody else is setting.
Establish all Your Purpose
Get out there and establish goals and start to follow your purpose. The external users will begin to guide you in the right direction. The fundamental meaning of enjoying each step of the way allows you to get what you need out of the everyday experience of having a purpose. A life without ambition is a life that has no direction and is difficult to value. Look at your life and identify the things you want to be a purpose. It could be experiencing what you wish to have, building a family, a personal accomplishment, and establishing some legacy from your life. Get a purpose and pursue it and always remember to enjoy the ride.
“He who has a why to live for can bear almost anyhow.”
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
One of my favorite videos and songs. This guy had a purpose and made this happen. We should all drive our goals to reality.
Your Thoughts are Dictating What you are attracting in your life.
One of the more popular Universal Laws is the Law of Attraction. Due to the movie The Secret, this Law has become recognized as an almost magical force that will bring all of your wildest dreams into reality if you do it right. But I don’t think it works quite like that. There is nothing natural or straightforward about this because we are human beings and have many flaws.
You don’t get what you wish for in life; you get what you believe you deserve. At least that is my experience. Like attracts like so what is happening underneath the surface of your life, in your heart and mind, where nobody else but you can see is the most significant force regarding what types of experiences you have in life. To me, the Law of Attraction is no different than any other goal-setting program. Let go of the mystical, unbelievable parts of this. Believe that you can achieve anything through action.
Knowing what you want
To get to a destination or accomplish something, you have to have an end goal in mind. If, right now, you had no ties, no limitations, what would you do? Where would you go? What things would you accomplish? In theory, it is easy to answer, but when we face the reality of doing anything we want, often we have no idea what would make us happy. This is because we have been brainwashed about what we should do. We spend little time thinking about what we want to do.
Understanding what will make you happy is the first step in any goal setting. Then ask for it. We pray by creating a goal around this thing we want and start to imagine what it will be like. Building robust, concrete plans to accomplish always gets the process of accomplishment in motion. There is no other way to do it. Set your destination and start the journey. Knowing what you want out of life is vital to the Law of attraction. Remember that knowing what you want is not magically making it appear; it is the first step.
Believe You Deserve Success
Believing that you can do something is more comfortable than thinking that you deserve to do something. That statement is sad but true. Our beliefs about our abilities and characteristics all determine how many of our goals we can accomplish. Your ideas about yourself develop throughout your life. Opinions and thoughts of parents, relatives, peers, teachers, Culture, and the media. Many of our beliefs are limiting and hold us back, yet we cling to them still. Changing that mindset is the most significant step to accomplishment a person can have.
The steps that you need to take to reach your goals will require you to do things, try things, fail at something, learn from things and do it all over again to find the path to reach whatever goal you set for yourself. Developing positive beliefs about yourself is vital to becoming the best you can be. Understand that if you follow the process out, the result will be a joy. There is a joy in all journeys, a feeling of learning and mastering the unknown. Changing limiting beliefs takes a little work, but all that you want to accomplish is on the other side of that process.
You Deserve It
In the Law of Attraction, you have to receive whatever it is that you want. That means to me that you know you deserve and are worthy of whatever goal you have set. This action sounds simple, but people often think good things are for others and not for them. Either because of limiting beliefs or because of a lack of confidence in themselves. I believe that everybody deserves to achieve goals.
The action steps you take toward a goal prove that you are deserving of any goal you set out to achieve. The process is not simple or easy; there are many learning moments along the way. I have often felt that it is the journey that has more value than the destination. The challenges you overcame, the setbacks you didn’t let stop you, and the growth that had to occur are all part of the journey. Paying this price does not have to be painful; it can be enjoyable. It is a matter of your perspective and how you view it. Knowing that you deserve good things in life, we all do.
Finally
When you hear about the Law of Attraction in the future, try not to think of mystical, metaphysical forces, but rather a simple law that supports goal setting and achieving. To me, that is what it means. When you set a clear goal, believe in yourself, and consistently accomplish it, you can achieve it. All people can move their lives in whatever direction they choose towards desperation and fear or love and accomplishment. It is totally up to you how your own story unfolds, but know that the process is always there for you to use.
Set a goal, get excited about it, visualize its success, then start taking steps to get yourself moving in that direction. Believe in yourself and your ability to accomplish whatever it is and have the self-worth to accept the final result, and there you have it.
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.”- Maya Angelou
“What you think you create. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you become.”-Anonymous
“The universe changes; our life is what our thoughts make it.”-Marcus Aurelius
We all know the old saying about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks, but I am here to tell you that an old dog may, in fact, be taught new tricks, sometimes the method of the lesson need to change, but the lessons can be learned. Sometimes it takes a painful experience and others just an open mind, but this old dog has learned many new tricks, and I continue to learn them every day. With each new morsel of knowledge, there is excitement for some new understanding and some regret for not figuring these things out a lot earlier in life. But we are all developing and need to be patient with ourselves and our abilities. To learn is one of the great things about being a human being living free on the face of the Earth.
Learning is your responsibility.
Learning new things and taking in fresh information is one of the parts of living life that make it interesting. Show me the person who thinks he knows it all, and I will show you a person with no clue about life.
Each day, there are new things to think about, learn about and do that there is no way one person could ever complete, learn or participate in all of the learning opportunities present themselves. The only thing stopping one person from having more knowledge today than they had yesterday is their own mental limit on that desire. Choosing not to practice home learning.
The curiosity that we all innately experience is usually enough to push us in the direction of learning something new. All you need to do is have thought and expose yourself to the ideas and experiences around that thought. The natural growth of the mind will take over from there, and personal growth will inevitably occur.
New Ideas Are Everywhere
Follow Your Passion!
If you are looking for a new idea, all you have to do is meet a new person, open a new book, read a news article online, or stop at a location you have never been to before.
Look at things, and observe their attributes. What questions come to mind? Being inquisitive is the fuel that will lead you to search for answers. It is the fire to overcome your ignorance and comfort and reach out to new people and investigate new thoughts.
It doesn’t mean you disregard everything you have ever known or done, there are great building blocks in everyone and everything, but it does mean that you shouldn’t be afraid to question what you know and look to test that knowledge. Don’t be afraid to grow, and it is what you were meant to do.
Seek Your Purpose in Life
What direction should your inquisitiveness lead you? In the direction that excites you. I think we all have an internal tracking device inside to help guide us toward the things that make us happy.
If you see something and you are excited about it, that is a loud calling card for you to pursue. In some form or fashion, you should learn about that thing. Passion is nothing more than high-octane fuel for your ability to learn. If it is passionate about creating with wood, then create with wood. If it is painting, then learn to paint.
If writing is your passion, then write and don’t care what anyone thinks about the thoughts you create. Do what you are passionate about, and you will not only be successful, but you will enjoy life a lot more too. Seek your purpose in life at every opportunity.
You’re The Best Around, Push Yourself
This can be the most difficult thing to do because as we grow older, we become settled in our ways. The comfort of routine takes over our lives until we get to the point you rely on the
Learn Something New, and you will become a new person.
Consistency to have life make sense.
To push yourself, you are going to have to step out of your routine. No matter how old you are, it is possible to change your course, try something new, drive in a new direction, or just be yourself.
The limits of your ability are certainly never going to be tested if you follow the safe and well-trodden path that routine actions provide. Step out of it, try new things, travel, meditate, read books of philosophy! Try yoga! Push yourself to go to places in the world and your mind that you never dreamed existed.
Learn, Learn, Learn
Learning is a lifelong adventure!
There is no way that I can express in words the excitement that learning something totally new can provide. There is a question in your mind; you search for an answer, that question eventually will have an answer.
Then it will be replaced by another question. Don’t ever stop answering those questions. Learn with all that you have. You will never know everything, but if you stop looking, death will not be far away.
Learn what you can, discuss it with who will listen, and ask those who have more knowledge. Using this model, there is absolutely nothing you can’t learn and nothing you can’t accomplish.
The number one goal of life for many people is to be happy. Most seek this outcome over all others, or they say being happy is what they want the result of their choices to be. I was making a little list of things that might turn the tide for you in the direction of happiness. My thoughts are going to lead you to a store of positive emotions. These will lead to the words you use, and all of this will lead to the actions you take, which will make you happy or not, depending on your mentality. Look at this advice and see if it will work for you today to provide you with a more joyful experience. Happiness always comes from within. Make your own within a happier place. The following is my advice to be followed or ignored as you see fit. It is the steps I try to take every day. I try.
1. Never Forget You Are Great
You Are Great!
Sometimes we make bad choices. Sometimes our learning experiences are not so pleasant. These are all just events happening outside of us and have nothing to do with who we are inside.
There is no goal that you can’t reach or success that you can’t attain if they are willing to be dedicated to getting there.
Don’t let what anyone else tells you, thinks about you, or acts toward you change the goals you feel in your heart are for you to accomplish. Sometimes your peers, your teachers, parents, or the world will tell you things that make you feel like you are not a great human soul with endless possibilities.
If they do, ignore them, they are just trying to bring you down. You can do anything; your light is perfect and doesn’t need to be adjusted because of others’ thoughts and ideas. Follow the flash of inspiration inside of you and create as it guides you.
Sometimes we forget this and accept less than we should from our experiences. If you clear all the rubble of life away, underneath, there is still a force of greatness. Never forget it is there, and you will find happiness.
2. Follow Your Passion
Always follow your passion.
I don’t care what you do in life, be a banker, a lawyer, a dancer, a carpenter, or whatever it is that makes you happy, but you must be the best you can when you follow that vocation.
Too many people choose a career because of what their parents or society thinks will provide a good living. Or it will be a safe and productive choice. This direction will make you end up in a career that is not fulfilling and ultimately leave you feeling unhappy in life.
When you choose what to do with your time, do what you are passionate about in your life. Choosing this path will allow your heart to expand, your mind to grow, and for you to come alive as a person. It is difficult to be unhappy when you are feeding your essence with creativity. Do what you have a calling to do.
3. Be Kind
You can either make someone’s day or provide a hurt that
Remember This!
May never heal. Kindness is free, contagious, and good for everybody. Look for ways to be kind to everyone you come in contact with today, including yourself. Understanding is infectious and has the side effect of happiness. You will make the world just a little bit better by being kind.
People in the world have forgotten how great they could be, and they spend a lot of time being miserable. Misery loves company, so they spend much of their time trying to make everyone else feel as bad about themselves as they do.
Please don’t pay any attention to this and recognize the actions for what they are. Being kind and understanding is not always easy, but it is still right.
Stay away from judging people and their behaviors because you will never know what experiences they have had.
Understand that there is greatness in everyone, and perhaps some people will never be able to reach their best, but you never know. Maybe your kind word or action will propel them to greatness.
It is a sure thing a selfish act or an unkind word or deed will never help anyone. Help people when you can. Be kind.
4. Be Patient
Patience is not an easy thing to practice. But not all things come instantly, and often the best stew takes a little time to cook. Understand that good things are coming to you if you want them and take action toward them. Just practice patience and enjoy each step of the journey. It is often the journey we will remember fondly as we look back on our triumphs.
There are a perfect time and a place for everything in your life. When you are a kid growing up, I understand there are a lot of pressures placed on
Be patient, and enjoy what life has for you today.
You to get older quicker, and you feel like you will be ready to make your own decisions, and you will have the opportunity to make many.
Be patient, don’t grow up too fast, enjoy being a kid as long as it is appropriate because you will never be able to go back.
No matter how it feels when you are in high school, good or bad, that is a concise part of your life, and it won’t define your life. It is just something that you have to go through. You may be popular, or you may not. In the end, it doesn’t make a difference in the type of individual you will grow into.
Treat people with goodness and strive to be true to your greatness. Be friends with all kinds of people because they will broaden your horizons and your perspectives on life. Growing up is an awkward, exciting time full of social learning and development, but it is only a few years of your experience, and it doesn’t amount to much. Take time to enjoy it, learn from it, and leave it behind when it is time. Be patient with yourself and your journey. One day you will look back and think wistfully of those days. Know you got the most out of them.
5. Think Outside the Box
Since you are a great human soul and able to accomplish anything you want, don’t let
Think outside the box
society puts you in a box and restrains your power in any way.
From the day you go to school, they will try to teach you how to think. Learn how to read, learn how to do the math, learn what they tell you about history, but never forget that you are free to think anyway that you want.
Think outside the box; all great things were accomplished outside of the box, not following someone else’s prescription for life.
Think creatively, and look for answers that nobody has ever thought of before. Be original in your thought, and you will find innovative solutions. The world needs much more of this than cookie-cutter responses that an educator believes to be correct. Don’t let them put you into a box; you are more significant than that!
6. Choose Friendship Wisely
Be friendly with everyone, and look for the good in them, but only allow those you can trust into friendship. Many people who were
Expect the best from yourself and little from others.
Apparently, friends will be nowhere to be found when the inevitable trouble hits your life.
There will be a few, though, who will stick with you no matter what, and those should be cherished and never forgotten. Nurture those relationships, give them time and effort because they are unique.
The older you get, the more these jewels will reveal themselves, and the false friends will fade away into yesterday.
Most people enter your life for a season because you need to learn something from them or let them learn something from you, and when that season ends, they or you move on. Enjoy the seasons and don’t turn them into anything other than what they are. People can raise you or drag you down, seek the former and avoid the latter.
7. Never be afraid to fail
In my life, I have noticed that I shy away from things that I am not sure about, and the reason is that I am so scared that I might fail or make a
No Fear For You!!!
Mistake.
Never be afraid to make a mistake or to fail. These failures or mistakes will only define the act, not the person committing them.
Often you will learn your most valuable lessons by trying new things, and when you fall short, you will have an opportunity for growth and understanding.
The problem comes when, as people, we take our failure personally and let it define us.
This label makes us not dare to try again because it hurts too much to fall short. Never let a misstep define you, decide, fail, learn, and try again.
Show your courage and character by not allowing your mistakes to destroy you and understand the valuable lessons you teach you.
You are great after all and will do great things; the lessons failure teaches you is most likely to help you move in that direction. You have unlimited possibilities.
8. Stay away from Organized Religion
Organized religion is designed to control people and earn money for specific organizations. God did not create everyone and then disregarded most of the population because they don’t go to the right church.
These are fear tactics meant to diminish God and the greatness within you. Understand that God is about love, and anything that teaches division in any way is not from God but humanity.
When humanity creates differences with labels, they try to make themselves feel right by calling the other wrong. All are right if they are based on love; all are wrong that is based on fear.
9. Follow your Heart
When it comes to decision making, rely on your heart to decide on all other factors. Your head will think logically and weigh many options; your emotions will pull you in one direction or another, usually based on what will benefit you solely.
Let all of those factors pass by and make your decisions from your heart, and you will make the right choice, and nothing is more important than that. Learn all you can about the situation and do what your heart tells you is correct.
This correct action will be true in big and little things. As you develop this skill, there are bound to be mistakes made. Wisdom is not gained in a day, but use the errors to hone the ability not to go another way.
10. Be Honest
We make many mistakes, but always be honest about ourselves and accept the consequences of them.
A person will judge you based on your word, and if you often tell lies, your credibility will be gone, and it is not quickly gained back. Tell the truth in all things, be honest, and life will work much easier for you.
11. Accept Help
Because people are independent, oftentimes, they will need help but won’t ask for it because they don’t want to be a burden or are afraid they will look weak.
Never be afraid to ask for help if you need it, you don’t know everything as high as you are, and it may be that the person you ask for help will benefit as much from rendering the advice as you will from receiving it. Be as willing to accept it as you are to give it.
12. Love over Fear
Every emotion and thought you have will come from one of two branches of the tree of life, and they are fear and love.
Fear will make you feel angry, sad, mad, jealous, or any other negative feeling, whereas love, happiness, patience, flexibility, understanding all stem from desire. Those are the thoughts and feelings that allow you to enjoy life as you are living it.
It is a choice which branch of the tree you spend your time on, spend it on love, and you will find life quite a pleasant experience, or spend it on fear, and you will most likely be unhappy.
I can give you and urge upon you all of this advice, but the beauty of this game called life is that you have to play it for yourself and find out the joys and wonder that awaits you. I can’t do it for you or take away all the risk because my game is different from yours. It all starts with your thoughts, which lead to your emotions, words, and actions. Advice is a way to make sense of and provide value to our own experience.
“Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.”- Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
“Many receive advice, only the wise profit from it.”- Harper Lee
“I think that’s the single best piece of advice: constantly think about how you could be doing things better and questioning yourself.”- Elon Musk
“Know when to hold ’em, Know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away, know when to run.”- Kenny Rogers.
mindset in life seems desirable. Simply because whatever you want to achieve or add to life is there for the taking once you set your mind. You have to be willing to work for it and build improvement. More than just the accomplishment results, it leads to an enjoyment of life that you can experience doing even the simplest of tasks.
isn’t just the learning. And it’s the process of learning that is fun and exciting and allows you to move your mind, body, and spirit into new experiences.
provide joy; it is the steps along the way. Find joy in these moments, and perfection doesn’t matter. What is perfection but worrying about how something looks to someone else? We are never what other people think of us. We are a collection of our experiences, and ignoring these real things for an idea that never exists seems to be the definition of insanity.
wants to suffer, but suffering has a place in life. It provides motivation. Look at your situation as a step in the journey, not the destination.
