In every moment, we have the power to create all our experiences in life, and they are created by our exercising the power of choice. There are choices to make in all things, and the results of these choices will lead to the nature of your experience. It applies to everything and everybody. Our choices define our lives.
Simple choices
It all begins with simple decisions in life. Should I sleep in an extra 10 minutes? Or Should I get up and attack the day? This choice could make a difference in what you experience in a small way or a large one. The routine decisions we make each day have the potential to have a significant impact on our lives. If we choose to take a specific route to work or perform a particular task, which leads to a physical injury, we have decided to put ourselves in that situation.
It is also a choice to look at our responsibility for things. We are all going to experience things that are not so great in life. Taking responsibility for our decisions can be difficult, but once you do, leaving almost any problem behind and being proactive in your actions will come naturally.
It’s all How You React
Some things in life happen which we have no absolute control over. There are crimes committed against people’s will all the time. Our choices were not to be a part of that, but we are, and our options start when we become involved. It doesn’t matter if we are involved in a flood, a crime, or the breakup in a relationship. Our choices are always ours from the moment we become involved. How you choose to react is, in fact, your personal decision. Does it make you healthier? Or Does it destroy you?
How you react to all of your experiences are going to define your life. We build walls of separation to make sure that we are never vulnerable to being hurt again. Eventually, though the walls of separation become so many, it cannot be easy to connect in any natural way at all. So it is time to make a choice, drop the barriers, or keep them up. If you are lonely, the obstacles that you have created are going to be the reason. It is hard to find somebody to spend time with, let alone one who can manage the gymnastics necessary to get over and through the barriers, you have built around yourself. Drop them; it will be much easier.
Power in Vulnerability
When the barriers we have built to protect us drop, of course, there is a vulnerability there. It is our choice to be vulnerable and to be at risk of being hurt. All games involve risk; there is a risk of staying inside your barriers and dropping your resistance to change.
There is a risk in all situations in life, and being open enough to accept whatever comes your way may lead to the greatest reward. It is all up to the choices that you make. Being vulnerable is not a bad thing; it is only a thing. To live is to make decisions based on the information we have. Live big and take a chance on your goals or live small and take no chances and live inside your safe cocoon. There is always a chance of pain, but there is still a chance of something greater.
The choice is Always Yours
Choose and live your life!!
The choices in your life are happening all the time. You decided to read this; now you decide if you listen or agree with any of these thoughts, then what you do about it. Choose to ignore it. Choose to be moved by it. Choose to write a reply. Whatever decision you make, it is yours and yours alone. This choice and every subsequent decision will determine the day that you experience. The option is always and will always be yours and yours alone.
Take responsibility for your choices and allow life to happen. Experience it, and don’t let it destroy you. Let it make you healthy and wise.
“A mountain is composed of tiny grains of earth. The ocean is made up of tiny drops of water. Even so, life is but an endless series of little details, actions, speeches, and thoughts. And the consequences whether good or bad of even the least of them are far-reaching.” — Sivananda.
“Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” — William James.
“All around us are the consequences of the most significant technological, and hence cultural, revolution in generations.” — Lawrence Lessig.
“The sower may mistake and sow his peas crookedly: the peas make no mistake, but come up and show his line.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Everything- all things, all the things of a group or class.
I have found this one fact pervasive throughout my life, EVERYTHING we do matters when it comes to our happiness and enjoyment of life.
Every decision that you make every day of your life contributes to the essence of your existence. Each choice you make to support someone or knock them down will be reflected in your own experience. Through my young adulthood, I never realized this. I was too worried about my existence to put much concern into the lives of others. That was a mistake and one I don’t want you to make. It all starts with a constant awareness of the thoughts you are entertaining, the corresponding emotions they cause you to experience, the words you use, and the actions you take because of them. Everything you think, feel, say, and do matters to your existence. So choose them wisely.
Choice consists of the mental process of judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one of them.
Your Choices Count All The Time
Every day, you are faced with a thousand choices, from what you eat to where you go or your thoughts about them. One of the most important decisions is how you treat other people and how you treat yourself. Many of these decisions happen with little thought at all, but you should be aware that each choice you make defines the substance that is you.
Your energy is a compilation of these decisions, you can keep them to yourself and not tell anyone else about them, and they will still be a part of you as clearly as if you wore a scarlet letter on your forehead. Due to this fact, it is significant that you understand there are no small choices; they are all big choices and will help determine what types of things you will attract to your life.
Decisions On the Job
What do you do at the fork in the road?
When you go to work at whatever job you are performing, you will always have choices, which will help determine how much you will enjoy that experience. And, more importantly, what kind of person you are going to be.
It doesn’t matter if you are digging ditches or splitting atoms. The choices you make will determine your success and value at that job and in life. Everything all starts with your attitude. Your attitude is the most significant decision you make about your work and, more importantly, your life.
If you continuously focus on how much you hate your job, it only stands to reason that you will struggle with it. That is your choice. If you approach the crappiest job in the world like it is the sweetest thing you have ever done, then you are not accepting that job as your end-all. You are displaying that you are a trustworthy person with unlimited potential. If you knew someone digging ditches for a living, and they approached it with responsibility and a positive attitude, wouldn’t any boss anywhere want that person around all the time?
Wouldn’t they actively look for places that would use that individual’s talent to the best of their ability? The answer is, of course, they would. But more importantly, wouldn’t that person be looking for situations that would use their talents better and provide more satisfaction. Only you control your attitude at work or anywhere else — everything you do matters.
Choices about Your Friends
Choose Them Wisely
The people that you spend the most time with will have a significant influence on you. If you crave adventure, find adventurous friends. If you enjoy thought-provoking debate, seek out friends that enjoy that as well. Decide what you want to experience in life and spend time with people who have a similar disposition. Building a positive network of friends will increase your enjoyment of life. The friends who have the same values as me, like honesty, integrity, and doing what is right, even if it isn’t always easy, are valued and appreciated. They give you strength and make your life much more enjoyable.
Conversely, if you spend your time with negative people, gossip all the time, and are miserable about their lives and others, what do you think your outlook will be? The transference from one person to another is a fact of life. The choices of association in this area significantly matter to your happiness.
Think about the people you know. Aren’t there some people who just put a smile on your face only by being around? Unfortunately, some people make you depressed just by saying hello. I know I have met plenty of both. You need to choose to steer towards the positive people when you can and leave the negative folks to their misery. You will make enjoy life a whole lot more.
Be The Toxic Avenger
If you have friends in your life who have a toxic effect on those around them, then you have two choices. You can either totally avoid them and the poisonous foolishness that comes with them. Or if that is not possible, the more fun method is to challenge them on every negative thought and action constantly. After a while, they will either change their perspective or start to avoid you. Either way, you win a more positive life.
When they say something negative about someone, disagree and say something you know that is positive. Most of these toxic people are not evil. They have just gotten into the bad habit of feeling that unless they make someone else feel bad, they can’t feel right. By choosing to counteract them at every turn, you will either make them so mad they will leave on their own accord or, more often than not, they will fall in line and agree with you. Be consistent with this, and you may turn a negative toxic person into a positive, happy person. That decision will be a happy one for you.
How You Think About Yourself Counts
Often, it is confusing to people who focus and make positive decisions about how they think about others. They will be doing well, but they ignore how hard they are on themselves. And the truth of the matter is that if you don’t love yourself and treat yourself like you deserve great things in your life, you can’t be too surprised when you don’t get them.
How you decide to view yourself is probably the most critical decision you can make in life. If you look at yourself and point out the flaws, real or imagined, you are beating up your self-esteem for no reason. How can you expect that great things will happen for you if you don’t even think you deserve them.
The great thing is that changing this pattern of thought is as simple as changing your mind. Really? Don’t believe me? Then do this. Honestly, make a list of all the things you don’t like about yourself. Hopefully, it won’t be too long, but I know some of us are hard on ourselves. For every negative thing about yourself, rewrite the statement as a positive.
You can change the complete statement, or more likely, replace it with something you do like. For example, an idea like, “my butt is too big” can be changed into “I have stunning eyes.” or “My butt looks great!” In the end,(no pun intended), I don’t think it matters how you change the statement because as smart as we think we are, our brains can only remember one thing at a time. If you are considering the same positive thought repeatedly, then there is no room for the negative version.
You can choose to make it a negative thing or decide to make it a positive thing. If you think positive thoughts about yourself and your abilities consistently, you will automatically permeate success, and others will be able to sense it. All I can ask is that you try it. Give yourself a break. You are a good person, and there are beautiful things about you that are so attractive. Focus on them. What you think about yourself is all that matters anyway.
Every decision you make, from the minute you wake up to the time you lay your head back down to go to sleep, will affect everything about you and your life. Ask yourself when you are making a choice, “Does this choice honor me.” If you can honestly answer, “YES.” Then the decision will be simple, indeed.
I leave you with one thought, and it is the one I had initially — all you do matters in life. The choices you make are yours, and you are responsible for them. Everything will come from your thoughts, feelings, words, and the actions that result from them. If you don’t like the way the music sounds, change the arrangement. Everything you do will allow this to happen.
In a minute, there is time for decisions and revisions, which a minute will reverse. ~T.S. Eliot
Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions. ~Author Unknown
Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
The inability to make a decision has often been passed off as patience. ~Author Unknown
Everything is something you decide to do, and there is nothing you have to do. ~Denis Waitley
Each day, we can make these decisions to bring our lives into balance, enjoy the experience more, and connect us to life in general.
Today is a day of potential with a chance of increasing your enjoyment and energy by accepting things as they indeed are and taking responsibility for them. Those two skills will allow you to experience a more happy and balanced life. It is a simple concept but takes discipline to perform consistently. It begins by being conscious of your thoughts, the words you use to express them, and the actions you take because of the ideas you entertain. These are not complex concepts to fathom, nor are they trying to put into practice, but few choose to do them consistently because you have to be consistent in your practice.
Things Are What They Are
It can be difficult for people to accept unpleasant things as a part of their lives. This fact is true of experiencing some significant change on our part. Sometimes it is just easier to wish things were like they used to be, but they never are. Change is happening all around you and inside you every day. The new comes and takes the place of the old, and that is a reality. To refuse to accept this is a cause of suffering. Things are what they are. To think anything else is delusionary.
Accept the things in life. All the changes and growth that are going to come until the time that life ceases to exist continually. Accept yourself and all others and the role they are playing in your life. Acknowledge that there is a divine presence in everyone, even if their actions are harmful and their behavior is unsatisfactory. Accept them and their journey as a part of yours. Life moves, injuries occur, rehabilitation is needed, you may find yourself down and in need of a comeback. All of these are possible once you accept how things are. You will have a solid base to go wherever you want. Accept things as they are because that is how they are.
Responsibility For All
My thoughts, words, and actions are all my responsibility, always. This fact is a concept more people should focus on in their life. We all make a million decisions in a day. Most are rote actions we complete daily, and those decisions are made subconsciously and may or may not represent what you want to stand for. Focusing on all the ideas we bring into reality with our words and actions means you have to be conscious and aware. Choices of harsh words can harm people deeply below the surface where you can’t directly see the harm. It doesn’t matter what your intent is. It matters what the actual result is. If your words hurt someone, you are responsible for that, regardless of your original intention.
Many people choose to avert responsibility for whatever reason. It is a habit that allows the negative energy of a poor choice to stay with you for a long time. Learn to accept responsibility for all things in your life, and when it needs to be “fixed,” then start fixing. The acceptance will lead to a higher quality of life, bringing balance and happiness to your daily experience. When you accept responsibility for all things, there is no fear of what others think. You are going to be productive and feel better about yourself. Your relationships with significant others, friends, family, and co-workers will also be better. When you make a mistake or hurt someone, take responsibility, and make amends.
Make Two choices Today.
It is up to you today to look honestly at your location and accept that it is a reality. You live where you live. You make the amount of money you make. You have the friends you have. If any of those things aren’t where you would like them to be, then you have the power to change them. Be responsible for your choices every day and look for ways to learn from those who aren’t so good. Use them to become better the next time you have options. All of the things you choose are in your power. Things may happen out of your control, but your decisions about dealing with them are all under your control. Nobody can make them for you.
As you move through this day, please take a moment and look at the thoughts you are entertaining about your life and how it is progressing today. Are you taking responsibility for where you are? Are you blaming others or circumstances? Are you just existing without much thought about it at all? You have a conscious choice to see where you are and to accept responsibility for it. Once you do this, you can use your words and actions to make your life a more enjoyable experience. The level of enjoyment you experience is all up to you and the thoughts you choose to entertain in your conscious mind.
“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.”- Nathaniel Branden.
“Even the acceptance of personal responsibility may not overcome the temptation to believe that now is not the time to repent. ‘Now’ can seem so difficult, and ‘later’ appear so much easier. The truth is that today is always a better day to repent than any tomorrow. “-Henry B. Eyring.
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”- George Orwell.
In every moment, we have the power to create all our experiences in life, and they are created by our exercising the power of choice. There are choices to make in all things, and the results of these choices will lead to the nature of your experience. It applies to everything and everybody. Our choices define our lives.
attack the day? This choice could make a difference in what you experience in a small way or a large one. The routine decisions we make each day have the potential to have a significant impact on our lives. If we choose to take a specific route to work or perform a particular task, which leads to a physical injury, we have decided to put ourselves in that situation.
committed against people’s will all the time. Our choices were not to be a part of that, but we are, and our options start when we become involved. It doesn’t matter if we are involved in a flood, a crime, or the breakup in a relationship. Our choices are always ours from the moment we become involved. How you choose to react is, in fact, your personal decision. Does it make you healthier? Or Does it destroy you?
choice to be vulnerable and to be at risk of being hurt. All games involve risk; there is a risk of staying inside your barriers and dropping your resistance to change.
