Would you break the law to save a loved one?
by Jonathan Hilton Day 27
Are there any depths that most people wouldn’t go to save a loved one in most cases? Yet this may not be the best philosophy to follow in many cases, but we do.
That is the answer that I am going to give, that I would, but I am not sure that in all cases it is the best thing to do, because the repercussions may ultimately be a negative for the person you love. Sometimes loving someone is allowing them to learn the hard way.
Health and Physical Harm
I think in the most basic forms, most people wouldn’t hesitate to break the law to protect
the physical well being of someone we love, from a spouse, a relative or a child. That is the easiest one to quantify.
I would break the law to do this, because as important as the law is, it does not mean a thing when you compare it to the value a loved one has in my life. There is no limit to the length that I would go to do this. I think of the loved ones that I have lost, due to old age and illness.
If there was something I could do to save them and keep them in my life longer, it would have been worth it, no question about it. Unfortunately we are not given this choice very often. Most often we are resigned to accept what fate deals us.
Learning the Hard Way
Saving a loved one can come with a heavy price sometimes when it becomes a blurry line of what people need to actually be saved from.
In life we all have to make decisions each and every day all of which come with a corresponding result. Since we made the decisions we are responsible for the result. Sometimes I think people want to save their loved ones from any kind of “bad experience” at all.
Even when the decision that led to any trouble was there. building a line between where a person needs to be saved and where they need to learn is very difficult to do. Many parents today seem to struggle with this, and that is not a criticism, just an observation.
I am not sure that I would be a good judge of this line or not. Sometimes a lesson will only sink in when you have to experience the full weight of the choice that you made.
It Hurt But It was Good For Me
In my life I have been fortunate to have people in it who cared about me and in many ways looked out for me to keep me from harm. Yet I was also allowed to learn lessons, on my own.
Throughout my development as a human being, I have found that the hardest lesson to learn is that the only person responsible for your actions and the resulting mayhem is you. Not anybody else, you and you alone.
You can blame others all that you want, they did this or that was unfair, but in the end the good, bad, the joy or the pain are all laid directly at your own feet. That lesson needs to be learned by everyone at some point, in order to continue to evolve.
There is only one way to learn this and you have to let all of your loved ones learn it for themselves. You can be there to support them and help them put the pieces back together but I think you have got to let the lessons be learned.
It could be the Best Thing
Life has a way of giving us experiences that we need to have in order to grow and that is the case for everyone. Sometimes the choice that we make, seemingly moves us backward.
Yet with the wisdom of time we see that the event or experience we first identified as bad, in the long run it provided us with the motivation or the skills to move to a height we never dreamed was possible before.
There is a motivation is failure that has been spring boarding people to great heights since the beginning of time. I always hope that I have the wisdom to know the difference between saving and enabling. That is one of the lessons we must all learn in life.
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